Randomized confessions..

To be perfectly honest, I am somewhat intolerant of some sub-cultures (which includes caucasians).
Every culture has it's good and bad right? When we stereotype we are usually taking the less attractive attributes of certain sub-cultures and generalizing.
For instance we say "drunken Irish" This type of term came about during/after the great immigration of Irish between 1850-1930. Some of the Brits that already occupied America resented the huge influx of lower class of Irish and dubbed them "Paddy's and drunkards" and would not hire them unless desperate for workers. This stereotype about Irish has lessened dramatically, but still remains a stereotype to some degree.

The same can be said about the way people felt about blacks in the south.The white southerners resented the black race being as their "equals". For so long they had been slaves and property of whites.They wanted the blacks there, but not as members of the community. They resented blacks becoming their neighbors instead of their property.
They were thought of as stupid and criminal, mostly because the black slaves often had to resort to stealing once the civil war was over. For many years afterward there was much tension within the "new black community" because unless they went back to work for the whites in the fields, there was not much else for them to do.

When laws were passed the black children would be schooled with whites, thats when the uproar started happening. Since blacks were looked upon as animal-like by the majority of southern whites there was a revolution.

Up here in the North blacks had already integrated into the community for a hundred or more years before the civil war. They had already been schooled here since the 1700's.Blacks in the north were never field workers, but generally house servants before the civil war. They were still not looked upon entirely as equals by whites, but were treated respectfully, educated by white families and given jobs that required thought instead of labor.

My point is that within each race there are different sub-cultures. In the 1800's Northern blacks looked down on their southern counterparts as "niggers". Among the Asian community there are productive citizens and gangs to the other extreme. With whites you have Albert Einstein and you have "trailer park trash" or "crackers".

When some people think of white anglo saxon protestants (wasps) their image is upper middle class , white suburban families that would drop over dead if their 17 year old daughter brought home a black boyfreind who lives in the housing project on the other side of town.

That assumption is more than a little true. We ALL make assumptions about people and categorize them immediately.
That is an intregal part of what makes us human. Birds of a feather should flock together. Sometimes that can mean of a different race or culture if the minds are alike and are equals. But on the assumption that we all stereotype, you would not see Prince William with a girl from an Alabama trailer park.

We ALL stereotype to some degree. I like to call it judgement. We look at say, a black man. Immediately we note his mannerisms and his speech. We know in 2 minutes what kind of person he is. Same with a white man. We look and listen. Is he intelligent? Does he say the "F" word every other sentence? Is he dressed like a slob? We make an assumption in 2 minutes.

If we just accepted everyone ALL the time without judging a book by it's cover, we would probably get in a lot of trouble before we figured out who was not our equal.

Correct me if I am wrong, but I beleive stereotyping is healthy to some degree.

  • I'm 24 and in less than three hours, I am marrying my older brother's gay lover so that "Paolo" can stay in the United States. We have to stay married for up to 3 years for Paolo to get citizenship. I wouldn't resent doing this so much if it wasn't for the fact that 3 years ago, my brother and his then-long time companion, "Jim" asked me to help them realize their dream of having a family. I carried a child by Jim for 9 months and then gave the baby up for adoption by my brother. My brother promised that he and Jim would always be together. When "Sara" was five months old, Jim "got religion" after some friends died of AIDS, decided he was no longer gay, and left my brother for a woman from his church. I am now basically raising Sara because my brother was really devasted by Jim leaving and had a nervous breakdown so he couldn't handle the responsibility on his own at the time. Then my brother met Paolo, here on a student visa. Paolo is 22 and doesn't want any kids. I guess that is fine because I'm not giving Sara back now (even if legally she is my brother's kid) and I'm not having any more! But I couldn't say no to the marriage because my brother raised me after our dad murdered our mom. He had to drop out of college to be there for me and basically gave up his twenties to be a surrogate dad. Otherwise, I would have been in foster care for 8 years.

    Okay, well let me start off by saying I'm a 15 year old female and I've been doing some stuff with this guy who's a little older than me and today I told him I want to fuck but he's nervous and said that he's always wanted to be with two girls...I've never been all the way with even a guy, much less a girl! I've actually always wanted to just try doing things with a girl but would feel weird with someone I know so I figured I would wait until college where everybody experiments, but I have the ability to now, with someone I don't know (he said he could find someone I don't know) but I don't know what I should do!! I really want to but I don't want anyone to know because they would think I'm a lesbian or something and I don't know what to do when we're together... Help me please!!

  • yes a long long time ago, I hooked up with a senior supervisor at work. He was cute and liked me too, so we starting dating, a big company no-no. Kind of hard to hide the secret especially when you work in the same department. Well we did get caught by whom I don't know. We tried sneaking off to the conference room when no one was around to have some fun! But someone caught us and I think said something, because he later on told me he couldn't see me any more because of the slack he was getting. Yes I was disappointed to say the least until a few months later I found out he got engaged to another supervisor what a jack ass he turned out to be!

    I have this thing for an old friend of mine. She knows that I find her very attractive since I told her the matter openly. The problem was that I told her the truth a bit too late, when we were years of good friends. She enjoys our friendship and dismissed the idea of a relationship - frankly speaking, I too know that it wouldn't work.

    Years passed, we're still good friends but see each other less often, and I have a girlfriend whom I adore and want to spend my life together.

    The other night, I went to some other friend's house to have a few drinks together. My girlfriend knew that I was going there and we both knew that no harm was to be done. After a wildly random chain of events though, the scene is as such:

    My old "friend" arrived and is lying on the couch. Everyone else is asleep. I'm sucking and licking her toes and feet whilst caressing her legs and butt. I want to fuck her brains out but she finally manages to stop me and convince that it would destroy everything. I finally come to senses, and leave.

    I still love my girlfriend, no question. I also know that I will never be able to hold myself back when the other girl is somewhere near me. Hopefully, she is more sensible.

  • I confess, it can really suck to be a guy. All I do is think about sex ALL the time. I get off whith my girl, and fifteen minutes later it all starts again-sex-sex-sex. God forbid I'm off and she's working. I'll get on this computer and look at porn all day. I get on my Kazaa and download a ton of free porn. I probably jack it twice, then get some from my girl.

    I had an affair with a younger man and he's decided that not only can we not be friends, but he's spreading shit about me to our mutual friends. He was my best friend and now he's getting viscious. I don't know why - we didn't fight at the end, just agreed that the friendship wouldn't work. and now my credit is in jeopardy cause I was stupid enough to co-sign a loan for him. I feel like a complete schmuck.

    Okay let me tell everyone about this really f&cked up dream I had.. I was eating shyt... I think it was human shyt....
    I wasnt really hungry in the dream or anythin.. Shyt jez appeared outta nowhere and I started munching down on it...
    Grossness....

    Well, I guess I am going to confess something a little different from the "usual" topics here...

    My wish::

    I wish my life to be the way that it is right now.

    I wish each relationship I cultivate to expand like a balloon. Then I want to release each balloon from my small hand, and watch it discipate into the atmosphere.

    I wish a to continue to understand each individual in my life without prejudice.

    I want to finish college this year.

    I wish to join the peace corps.

    I wish to be an international aid worker.

    I dream of being a wife.

  • I am the kind of woman who has engagement rings thrown at her in anger.