I've found myself falling hard for a man that is 16 years older than me. I'm in college... his oldest daughter is only 3 years younger than me. He lives several hours away... so far our friendship has only been physical, and the sex has been amazing, but he's made it so clear that he doesn't want anything more than that. He's just gotten divorced, and he's ready to have fun, he doesn't want a relationship.

I could love this man... I dont find our ages to be insurmountable... I dont mind his kids, either. Within a year, I'll only be living an hour away from him. I know I need to tell him how I feel, and stop lying to him, but I'm so afraid of ruining our friendship. He's clueless about how I feel. I know he is.

It's breaking my heart =( I know I need to tell him, but I'm scared. I wish he could feel the same way for me, as I feel for him.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Apr 26, 2005 at 9:53 AM

If you want the sex to continue, don't say anything.
That is apparently all there is - from his point of view.
Your urge to get more personal will pass, probably about the time he wants to get more involved with you.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Apr 26, 2005 at 5:43 PM

first of all this man only wanst you for sex. by telling you straight out its all about sex...well guess what it is. dont fall for him its not even worth it. tell me do you guys actually go out and do things together or just plain ole fuck? that will answer your question i believe.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Apr 29, 2005 at 8:29 AM

I never meant to fall for him... i've had sex-only friendships in the past and I've never fallen for them... I was too far gone with him when I finally realized it. We do other things sometimes, but not very often. Because I live a couple of hours away from him, we get a weekend once and a while and we'll go do stuff other than just staying in bed all day... It's always so much fun hanging out with him. =(

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Apr 30, 2005 at 4:37 PM

maybe because this has somewhat happened to me already b4...but all you can do now is stop thinking ur in love, i think ur inlove with the idea of u 2 having more and the dreams of one day being happy. lets wake up and see the truth please. life is all these little moments so hey just have fun while u can. another question for u...are u 2 monogamous? or just u?

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by Anonymous on Apr 30, 2005 at 10:02 PM

Just me, right now. He's told me if other women show up, he wont hesitate to have some fun with them... I'm not happy about that, actually I fucking hate it, but I didn't tell him that.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Dec 27, 2005 at 10:43 AM

Maybe you should only use him for sex. Have sex regularly with him. See what happens later and go with the flow.

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