I am into hard core sex and my partner of 11 years gets freaked out by it. I get caught up in the moment and command him to choke me, hit me, bite me, pull my hair, slam me up against things and pound me hard. this freaks him out and he said I am to demanding in the bedroom and it intimidates him. when we have sex he doesn't last very long which is depressing because I never get finished off if you know what I mean. So i watch alot of porn and masturbate to my wildest fantasies because i am not sexually satisfied. The worst part is I have even considered cheating to fulfill my wants and desires but WON'T because I love him with all my heart. I just wish there was a way to get him to be more open and abusive sexually. To top it all off I even want to have sex with another woman but that would be sensual and soft.the thought of a woman eating my pussy is such a turn on and I'd let him watch but again he doesn't want a part of it.. I have only ever had sex with him as I lost my virginity at 17 but I need and want so much more than he can offer.. I am so sexually frustrated its not funny!!!! We rarely have sex now I'd be lucky if it was once every 3 months..