I've been dating my boyfriend for just over a year and a little while ago I felt like it reached the stage where we're just so comfortable around each other that neiter of us make the effort anymore, and it's become a bit samey. I still love him to pieces though. But recently I've developed a huge crush on a guy at work. A few weeks ago we went out on a work night out and after everyone had left it was just the two of us - we were dancing and that was it; it felt so risky. He kept kissing my neck and holding my hand and I felt so guilty the next day even though I had refused to let him go any further than holding my hand. Since then, we have been constantly flirting at work and I find myself looking forward to shifts just to see him.
I think in my mind it's just nice to have someone to flirt with for a change and have a laugh with - something which I feel has gone from my relationship.
I'm sure the feelings will blow over eventually, but I just feel awful thinking about this guy when I'm with my boyfriend.
I just think I need to make more of an effort in my relationship to get that spark back again, I know it's still there somewhere.