TELL HER!!! She can't read yer fucking mind
It may sound corny, but consensual sex is sexy. It may be surprising at first to talk to a partner openly when you would want to have sex, but don't leave it just there, also saying that it's nice to be asked to have sex with. It's a good way to build up confidence in each others opinions.
For example: when my partner gets lots of compliments from others it just reminds me of how attractive he is. When he would get jealous of guys complimenting me I explained my perspective and he started to feel the same way rather than getting angry at the other guys.
I had this same conversation about sex being more sexy when openly asked and not implied through silence and body movements. I can't pick up on what he is doing and then suddenly being groped isn't the best way to turn a woman on. When we both say when we want to have sex it makes the moment more intimate because we know what the other person wants and what will get them more turned on. You don't want someone to say yes grudgingly, you want them to say it with excitement, "YES YES YES!"
I use to feel really silly going up to my boyfriend and saying I wanted to do it, heck I was embarrassed to admit that I wanted him sexually. After I got over the initial feeling I've been able to have a deeper connection and trust him. I knew that if I could have a guy who could ask me first for sex, that he actually cares about what I think.
Trust me, I've had many who haven't asked, and all of them we're jerks, either cheating, lying or just in it for the sex.
Let me share some real pearls of wisdom. It can help to awaken and strengthen things.
Women want to be hunted and earned.
They want to be chased and pursued.
She wants to be reminded what a valuable prize she is.
She wants to know you're thinking of her.. awaken her fantasy. Text her or email her that you are thinking about her, and that you want to touch her.
"Can you imagine how good it will feel when I wrap my arms around you?" or "You're on my mind and I can't wait to see you", or "I can't wait to touch you again"...
Women are hardwired to be attracted to a man's Behavioral Cues. Behaviors that sub-communicate dominance and high social status will pump up her desire to have sex with that man. Women unconsciously pick up on behavioral cues that demonstrate characteristics such as:
* Confidence
* Leadership
* Humor and Playfulness
* Powerful Vocal Projection
* Strong Body Language
* Comfort in his own environment
* Indifference towards what people think of him
* Confidence to say what's on his mind, stand up for himself, and stand out
* Lives by his own standards, and dictates his own sense of reality based off his beliefs and not others
* Passion in life, and a willingness to go for what he wants
* Has concepts of personal boundaries of what he will and will not accept
