sorry meant to say ....she has a video of me rubbing one out from start to finish
Why is that a problem? Who gives a shit if you rubbed one out for her?
so if your ex sent a video of u mastubating to all your contacts friends family it wouldnt bother you?
There is a lot going on here that I need to know if u need advice. Why did u girls break up? How did she take the break up? Have u or her met some1 else since the breakup?
she didnt take it well and yes i have met someone
Let me start by saying that her threat is made out of anger and hurt and I doubt she will follow thru on it. You need to phone or better yet talk to her face to face just the 2 of u. Explain to her that the relationship had run it's course and that both of you need to start the next chapters in your lives. Be sympathetic but firm and remind her that you and her did share a loving bond, an intimate relationship and ask her if she really wants to tarnish what you both so lovingly had and enjoyed at that time. If you have a piece of clothing or jewellery that she gave that you still like to wear then wear it when you meet her and if she asks why you are then tell her that is was giving to you with love from her and that is how you would always like to remember her with love and affection. Avoid talking about your new partner and if she brings her up tell her this day is about you and her and finding closure for the both of you. This is what she is needing and whether she knows it or not what she needs to move on.
Even if she sent it to everyone you know, there would be a little embarassment on your part but she would be the one everyone looks down upon. Evereyone would be aware that she is doing it out of spite and they would most likely lose all respect for her because they would know she violated that personal trust.
Nobody would think anything much about it...they do it too!