I can't have sex with my husband anymore. His penis is just too large for me. Rather than feeling pleasurable, his penis hurts terribly and causes painful discomfort for days. I know a lot of people think a big one is desired by all woman but if you are tight down there it fucking hurts so bad you just lie there gritting your teeth hoping he cums really fast.

I had talked with friends and my mom, I know awkward, before I agreed to marry my husband and they all convinced me that eventually I'd get used to his size. He's just so much bigger than any other guy I've been with. Supposedly my vagina would loosen up over time. I love him and believed that I would loosen up so I made the decision to marry him. Well after seven years together and two kids it hasn't. I'm just as tight as I ever was and I can't take the pain anymore. It's getting worse. I've talked with my doctor a few times who says "loosening up" is a myth. All she can recommend is lots of lube and foreplay. It's good advise but doesn't really help.

I feel bad for my husband too. He knows how much he hurts me and he tries to be careful so he never really gets to make real love to me. A few times when he was drunk he went way to hard and I ended up in tears bleeding. He feels terrible when he's done that so I won't have sex with him anymore if he's been drinking. It's gotten to where when we should be making love like most couples, I just lick him and use my hand. I know he misses real sex as well. He dated women before me who really enjoyed sex with him. He gets so frustrated but it's just too much for me.

I miss sex terribly. I miss feeling a man slide into me, the tightness giving way to pleasure. I miss having a man take me hard, me orgasming with his penis inside me. Masturbation is just so lonely and oral sex feels nice but it'll never replace the beautiful feeling of having a penis inside you. I don't want to be afraid of sex anymore. I don't want to be in pain for days just because I had sex. I'm young, attractive and desirable and I want to enjoy a man making love to me but the man I love just can't give me that.

I sent him an email this morning after he went to work. I apologized for being a bad wife. I apologized for his heartache and loneliness. I told him that I can't have sex with him anymore and confessed that I want him to find a woman more sexually compatible that he can have regular sex with. I also finally got the courage to ask him to allow me to do the same. I explained that it would just be for the sex and that if he didn't want to I could live without it because I love him but I hate what it's doing to our marriage and want him to at least consider it.

I sat by the computer shaking for hours waiting for a reply. I finally got a text message from him saying he got my email and that we'd talk when he got home. I've been sitting here crying all day.