I need some information about sex please and NO I will not give my name.

We got married August 21st last year. She was a virgin and I had sex with two girls before her. One a virgin the other was not.

Well my wife cried on our wedding night and told me it hurt. Just like my old girlfriend did. My girlfriend stopped crying in a few weeks. She liked sex after that and so did I.

My wife is not stopping the crying. Its every time we have sex. tells me it hurts and burns. She will let me have it only three nights per week. And we are trying to have our first baby.

Her dad is a minister and her mom never told her anything. My dad works at the church as well. I can not ask him. All he told me was to be careful he had problems as well. I guess with mom, she obviously does not like sex either. I know he held her down and made her have sex many times. She told my sister about the sounds from the bed room.

I can not keep doing this, she will not kiss me and will not do anything. I want her to touch me, she will not. I wanted to tongue her, she said that is nasty.

Little lost here and I worry she will find I have been on a page like this. She said if her husband watched porn or dirty pictures, she will leave him. God said this is dirty and a sin.

Please help me with this. I will check back in a few days.

thank you for your help

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Jan 16, 2014 at 9:11 PM

This sounds terrible for both of you. Firstly, she needs to go to the doctor. If sex is physically painful, she could have a number of conditions (that are not contagious or her fault, by the way- unfortunately some women are born with physical issues that only become apparent when they begin to have sex). A doctor can help if that is the issue. However, if the doctor can't find a problem, then her physical symptoms are probably manifestations of her psychological wellbeing, and she needs counselling as it sounds like she has a traumatic relationship with sex for whatever reason- I'm not saying she has been (physically) abused but if she has been brought up to believe sex is shameful, or to fear it, then it is going to be very difficult for the two of you to overcome those feelings by yourselves.
A counsellor could be secular or associated with the church. I don't know which church you are affiliated with, but I think that some parishes have counsellors with professional training in psychology that could provide private counselling for your wife, or marriage counselling for the two of you together. Any good counsellor, regardless of their religious affiliation, will be respectful and kind to both you and your wife- and remember that a loving sex life between husband and wife is promoted in the Bible. Your wife loves you, and with gentle, professional guidance, she will be able to express that love physically- but I really do recommend that you seek outside help from someone not emotionally involved. Hope this helps. (I'm a woman, by the way.)

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Jan 16, 2014 at 9:47 PM

Foreplay

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Jan 18, 2014 at 2:09 AM

I assume she won't let you eat her pussy. (If she does, by all means do, a lot.) Sounds like this marriage isn't going to work, you need someone more into sex. Don't drag the agony out. I doubt that it will work whatever you do.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Jan 20, 2014 at 6:06 AM

get her to see a dr and if there are not physical problems, then try this:

1 - a lot of lube
2 - her on top so she can control what happens

if that is not working, then counseling is probably in order to see if there is something holding her back from enjoying things.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Jan 25, 2014 at 8:49 AM

This sucks for both of you. I agree with the first, second and fourth commenters, and it's the reason I believe in pre-marital sex... and I'm conservative.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Apr 2, 2014 at 1:49 PM

She's your wife, force her to watch porn that will juice her up.

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