Trying to make me orgasm is ironically a huge turnoff for me. The only kinks I'm into are being treated like I exist for someone else's pleasure.

So, when I got together with my husband 11 years ago, before we got married, I made sure he knew that he had all the control. He decides what I wear and when, he decides when how and where we have sex, and he can tell me to have sex with other people. If it's something that leads to his orgasm, I'll do it no matter how gross or painful it might be. My own orgasm, if it happens, is merely a coincidence and does not influence either of our decisions. I don't masturbate.

I have had sex with his boss, which resulted in him getting a promotion. If his friends are over I'm usually naked and often being used by them as well.