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Anything Goes
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Straight Female / 23
i read a couple of these posts this week where very young couples are together and feel they have to stay that way, but don't want to. that is large stupidity going on. i admit that i thought my parents were completely stupid about everything, but some of what they told me about relationships at least made some sense to me. i don't want to get tied down in a relationship. i have things that i want to do as a person before i have someone that i need to consider.
i started having sex when i was 11 and i thought that i had met the perfect guy and we would be together forever. ya, right, i was just one of many younger girls that he was using for sex. i found this out after 6 months when his parents were out of town, i went over to his place to give him a surprise. i was the surprised one to find him in bed with another girl about my age. well, there was a huge fight and physical violence and things were broken and it was very messy.
since then i made the 2 date rule. i will date a guy 2 times, we have fun, including sex if i want it. after 2 dates then we don't see each other except as friends and possibly occasionally have sex, yes, i have needs too, but it's a very casual thing and we don't EVER consider ourselves are a couple. that's because we are not.
if a guy wants to be serious, then we talk about it and to me serious means marriage and until death do us part, kids, house, and the works. if he is not interested in that level of commitment, then casual friends and occasional sex is the best he can expect. if he is interested in the works, then we'll date for a month and see, but if we find that we're not going to be ready for the ring and church in 6 months or a year at most, then it's back to being casual.
being somebody's bo is just not what i am about. i have sex when i want it, and i have a lot of friends, but commitment is just that--the ring, church, house, kids, and etc. i don't plan on being 40 and stuck with the same loser for the last 10 or 20 years because we're together and he'll hurt himself if we break.
i started having sex when i was 11 and i thought that i had met the perfect guy and we would be together forever. ya, right, i was just one of many younger girls that he was using for sex. i found this out after 6 months when his parents were out of town, i went over to his place to give him a surprise. i was the surprised one to find him in bed with another girl about my age. well, there was a huge fight and physical violence and things were broken and it was very messy.
since then i made the 2 date rule. i will date a guy 2 times, we have fun, including sex if i want it. after 2 dates then we don't see each other except as friends and possibly occasionally have sex, yes, i have needs too, but it's a very casual thing and we don't EVER consider ourselves are a couple. that's because we are not.
if a guy wants to be serious, then we talk about it and to me serious means marriage and until death do us part, kids, house, and the works. if he is not interested in that level of commitment, then casual friends and occasional sex is the best he can expect. if he is interested in the works, then we'll date for a month and see, but if we find that we're not going to be ready for the ring and church in 6 months or a year at most, then it's back to being casual.
being somebody's bo is just not what i am about. i have sex when i want it, and i have a lot of friends, but commitment is just that--the ring, church, house, kids, and etc. i don't plan on being 40 and stuck with the same loser for the last 10 or 20 years because we're together and he'll hurt himself if we break.
