My mom and three sisters are all angry with me. My oldest sister found out her husband of thirty years was having an affair and ran to our mother all upset and my other sisters joined in telling her to throw him out and divorce him. I went over to join the sob fest and told them to grow up. They have been together for a lifetime. If he strayed he strayed. Seriously, after all that time who cares. She should have kept it to herself. Spoken with him and only him about it and asked him to end it if it bothers her so much.

They blew up at me and told me I'd feel different if it was me. Well unbeknown to any of them I found out four years ago that my husband was having an affair. I kept it to myself and let him have his fun. We have been together ourselves since we were 17 years old. I understand where he's at and I'm not going to throw away a life time together over a little sex. If his affair ever starts to interfere with our life together I will sit him down and ask him to cool it but I'm not going to play the victim and make a big deal out of something that pretty much doesn't effect me at all. Until it does it's really none of my business.

I know other women, and a few men, who have been in the same situation and the ones who made a big deal out of it and threw away their marriage, without fail ended up lonely, miserable, and very regretful that they hadn't treated it the way I have. They all wish they had handled it differently. I've had close friends crying hysterically on my shoulder while drunk pleading for their husbands to come home years after the divorce. Well it's too late then. Way too late. Wounded pride is no reason to throw away a lifetime of happiness. At least that's how I feel about it.