I want to tell my story, the reason why I submit to my husband. Yes, I submit to him.

This is not about sex, he is the man and I am the woman and that is how sex is in our house. That part is easy, as we all know. No this is about submitting to him, to accepting him as my Lord and Master over my life. I took his hand when I married him, but I did not accept him on that day as my Lord and Master on earth. This was wrong. I did not obey, I did not do as I should, I did not commit myself to the marriage as a wife. And worse, I did not set out to be a mother and to build a home.

One day he told me that as I would not be his wife, he would find another, a wife to dedicate herself to him, to his home and most importantly to delivering herself to being a mother. This girl was younger than me, but a few years, and she was committed to being a wife. I was not.

I gave much thought, actually I went through emotional hell. Here I was, the one true wife, I had married him, and I was giving up my place to this other woman because I would not accept what I was supposed to do.

First I accepted that I must become a mother, and second that I must take over the building of a home, and thirdly to somehow accept that as his wife, he was my Lord and Master on earth, as God himself is my Lord and Master in Heaven.

I struggle every day with the conflict that the world has place upon my shoulders, be yourself, do not submit to anyone, don't let him tell you what to do, things like that. But that is the path to divorce, a broken home and worse still, eternal damnation in the eyes of God.

So one day I went alone to our church, mid week, with a heavy belly, and sat there and asked God for guidance. And God spoke to me, and I listened for the first time in my whole life, I listed to God and not to those who want to put down God's plan, and I realized that when he chose me to be a girl, to become a woman, to be the female of the species, to be the one in my house to bear children, he chose me to be the wife and not the husband.

He chose other things for my husband, but he chose me to be a wife. So a wife I will be, I submit to my husband as my Lord and Master on earth, to be his wife, to walk beside him, to bear children for him, to build and maintain his home, and trust in God's hand that those things that are for the husband, he will do.

My life today as a mother and a wife and a woman in my community is much better, I found peace. And I found that there is nothing wrong with being the woman God wants you to be. He did not make you man, so don't try to be man, he made you woman, that is all. That simple. His plan is that simple.

Thank you,