Maybe all is not lost with your wife, I told my wife of my lust for other men and much to my suprise she was happy with it and she now even picks out men for me and helps me get ready for dates with them, She says i'm now more like a sister than a husband and if anything it makes our marriage stronger, She's even been present when i've had sex with another man, So you never know your wife might turn out to be just like mine.
Aww baby I am so sorry you and your wife had a falling out. It is a very hard thing to do going through divorce too. You have to make the choice based on many different factors like simply do you love her? So sounds like at least she knows you like boys the way you discribe her sucking on you with toys. It may be very simple to fix like the advice in comment#1. My heart felt advice is do not leave her but include her in your gay fantasies. Women love to be included in every way and sounds like that is when things took a turn for the worse is when you went solo with gay porn. I say no more solo that you should only include her. Bisexual male/50
U should ask and talk about this with your wife, maybe she will try to rekindle the relationship or she might even join in on these sessions