We had full penetration sex throughout my adolecense. When he went off to medical school, when I started at the art institute, he told me when he left that I could date for fun, but no boys, period. I was to remember just who I was and to whom I belonged. At the art institute I met a girl, and we became friends, and we messed around. I was remaining true to him by not messing around with any boys, but still I had someone to go out with and have fun. She and I messed around quite a bit, including sexual experimentation. Of the two of us I was far more aggressive and adventuresome, but she was quite happy to go along. At the time we weren't really into who was dominant/passive or anything like that, we just got along and enjoyed spending time together, and messing around in bed.
When my cousin returned from medical school, we had to get serious. He was now 28 and I was 24 and it was time to either become a couple or not. We came 'out' to our parents, telling them that we wanted to get married that summer, and that way I could go with him when he went off to residency. Marriage became a real problem, us being cousins. But after everything was said and done, we went on a destination wedding overseas, where the issue of being cousins was not questioned and we came back pregnant, on purpose.
My cousin and I have been married for 25 years and we have four normal children.
We have an open marriage, open in the sense that we don't hide our feelings or that from time to time we get an urge for some variety. I have always respected his wishes and I only wander around with other women. He wanders around, but I don't ask him with who, it is none of my business, and I think I would have a hard time talking to a girl that I know he is having sex with. We just agree that from time to time we need some variety, and I truly enjoy being with another woman now and again.
I have thought about trying with another man, the thought has crossed my mind. But when it does I remember what he told me when he went off to medical school, who I am and who I belong to, and no boys.


