My wife and I have been married for 15 years. She is a good person and great mom to our kids. The problem is I am not sexually attracted to her. I prefer a more spontaneous and exciting sex life and she does not. I've tried convincing myself this is just a phase, a rough patch, but I'm starting to think it's over. I love her but I'm not in love with her.
I'm conflicted on what to do. I don't want her to be unhappy and don't want to ruin my kids lives. On the other hand, I feel like I'm suffocating and waisting my life. I feel like I'm serving a life sentence of unhappiness. My kids are great. I truly love spending time with them. These feelings are only in regards to my wife.
I feel like I would be selfish if I stayed because she should be with someone who is in love with her. I would feel selfish if I asked for a divorce because it would affect the kids and obviously her too.
Sounds like a lose lose to me. Anyone ever go through something similar?