I can't talk with my husband about role playing. Both of us have never done it. He becomes defensive when i do try bringing it up. I asked him what comes to mind when i say role play and he says he feels stupid because he doesn't know how to act what he isn't. He used to be in acting and enjoyed that. I assured him that if we do try and he isn't liking it, its okay if we just stop and i would be happy that we gave it a shot.

I won't be asking anymore, i have asked on occasion over the last couple of years. No point in trying when it always ends in an argument and he doesn't know why the thought of role playing overwhelms him. This is me seeing his perspective on it.

My side is a little different. I've never been in acting and i have wanted to role play for several years now. His defensive reactions are making me feel ashamed about my desires and curiosity. The catch, my desires have become stronger because i do feel so close and happy with my husband. I'm wanting to take our sex life to the next level. He loves it when i do get wild in bed, I'm fearing that its going to become boring for me because i don't want to be the only one "putting on a show". I start holding back and he gets mad at that too. I start hearing how he misses the way i used to be when i would dance for him, talk sexy to him, and so forth. This isn't a weight problem that is weighing me down, i am rather slender with an hour glass figure. Looks sure don't last but I'm wanting to enjoy it while we can.

He gets really turned on when i crank the music, dance for him, and i don't allow him to touch me until i instruct him to. I know that i could act things out all the way through keeping both of us hot and bothered until we explode. Could he be intimated when he thinks about "putting on a show" for me? I long for him to just grab me and have his way with me and i love hearing him talk dirty to me. He doesn't want to force himself on me in any way so were stuck when it comes to role playing.