I feel for you man! My first wife did the same thing to me. When I married her, she was the town slut. She'd suck or fuck anyone. She was a tall leggy blonde, with great tits. I met her and got my cock sucked the first time we were together. Time moves along, we get married. I'm thinking I just landed a lifetime of great sex with this hottie. Sex is great for a while, then she became as cold as the South Pole. It never improved. I spent years jacking off just for the sexual relief that I should have been getting from her. One night after arguing over her lack of attention to me, I left the house and unexpectedly bumped into my best friends sister. She ask what I was doing out so late. We started talking, and I told her my miserable tale. She smiled and said, "I think maybe I can help you". She leaned in and gave me a passionate kiss, then pulled away and said, "I've always thought you were hot, and have wanted to suck your cock. Would you like that?" Naturally in my deprived state, I said "YES!" We went where we could be alone, and she gave me one of the best blowjobs I've ever had. She swallowed my entire load. After that when my wife and I would argue over sex, I'd start getting horny, because I knew that I could storm out of the house like I was mad, and go straight to Kate's house. My wife didn't know where I went. She was just glad that I was gone and she didn't have to do anything. I was glad because I was going to get my cock sucked by my secret lover. We finally ended up getting a divorce. Not because of Kate, but because my wife was having an affair with a guy from work! I'm remarried now to pretty little blonde, who loves to satisfy my needs. And I love to satisfy hers. Maybe you just need to find a secret lover, or just divorce her ass. Then you don't have to be secretive. Just fuck anyone you want. Make sure she see's you with these other women if you get a divorce. Just to piss her off. Good luck my brother.
Hey I agree with # 1. Why be miserable the remainder of days on earth. Life is way too short.Get a divorce! Don't worry about how the kids will feel or your 401K or alimony. You can't take the years of misery back!!!!!!!!!!!!
I've heard it said, "There are 7 Billion people on this earth. Why are you letting ONE of them ruin your life?!" Think about that for a moment.