I'M THE MOTHER OF three boys but it's the oldest one who is the subject of my headaches due to all his bullshit but let me start by saying that i wasn't perfect either and would certainly agree with everyone that i wasn't right for allowing and in many ways enabling this son of mine to just do the shit he was doing...but god knows what he's doing and by using the only alternative apart from seeing my son in jail today he's paying the price for all the wrongs he did.they never knew their father who never cared for them and still owns back child support but the courts say unless he works on the books and accumulates child support debts over 50 thousand dollars the city and state can't arrest him.to provide for my sons i work part time at a beauty salon and welfare helps me with some of the bills provided my sons go to school and attend after school training courses.the city and state are strict about that shit and at least my two youngest sons ages 13 and 16 want to get ahead in life and study hard when they at home,my rules are simple..stay off the streets,stay away from the gangstas wannabe,don't do drugs and go go around getting young girls pregnant.we live in the housing projects here in harlem n.y.c. and unlike their oldest brother who is now 28 years old and still lives at home i believe and pray to god that my two youngest sons succeed in life and go on to have great futures so they don't have to depend on me the rest of their lives.being a black family we are pushed to achieve and i can't complain anymore that the white system tries to keep us down because they provide financial aid,community services and even award scholarships to those in the black and hispanic communities to stop their cycle of poverty and crimes.my oldest son chose to live in the negative environment of the streets and finally went too far when he met a 12 year old girl who lived here in the projects and it wasn't too long before this young girl was knocking on my door with her mother,two uncles and one of her aunts.though my son wasn't home at the time a fight nearly broke out between me and the girls aunt when she accused me of letting my son go around getting little girls pregnant.i damn sure don't let my son stay at home when i'm at work and my two youngest are in school so for them to say he was bringing this black little skinny girl who at her age should have been in school and they should have been more responsable was shocking but made me fucking angry.when the young girl told her mother that my son would only bring her when i wasn't there her mother ask if she could come in and talk to me and of course not all black and hispanic people are uncivilized as white racist people will have you believe so i invited them in and we sat in my living.the girls aunt apologized while i served them coffee and the girl sitting by her mother drank a cold glass of fresh milk.i couldn't stop looking at her thinking that my first grandchild could very well be born to a 12 year old black little girl with barely any tits in her rapper [camron] t-shirt and when she talked honestly about my son and what he did to her in his former room which i had given to my two youngest sons i personally wanted to kill the motherfucker.she swore that she didn't want to go through with it when she kind of saw my son naked and realized she was alone with a man although my son looks much younger having lied to her saying he was 17 years old.not that her uncles had to remind me that it was legally statutory and contributing to the delinquency of a minor but looking at this young girl asking me for more fresh milk i couldn't say a fucking thing.her mother said plainly and clearly there was only two ways to resolve this issue which was either my son took responsability or she was going to report him to the officials,she said she had three other daughters and a son to provide for and was tired of her daughter also the oldest running around having sex with boys and much less my son who was an adult man so either i let her stay in my house or i wasn't going to see my son for a long time.against my better judgement we arranged for her to bring her daughters suitcases and god help me...her toys.legally we both knew we could get into serious trouble but i was like her extremely angry and agreed a punishment it's best served cold.my two youngest sons got home first to find the young girl sitting beside me the kitchen table we kept by the wall in our living room because the apartment was too small.i got straight to the point telling them to meet their future sister in law and by the way she's pregnant with their oldest brothers baby clapping my hands in a sad angry way they could all understand that i was not happy that this was the way i was going to be a grandmother.my sons looked at me as if i had lost my fucking mind and looked at her like she was the worlds dumbest little bitch.my son walked in later that night from where ever the fuck he was that day to find his future little wife talking on my cell phone with her mother who kept calling us to know if my son had arrived.my youngest son who was 13 years old came to sit beside me while the other one stayed in his room,this may sound crazy but i just smiled at my oldest son when the young girl got off my phone with her mother to tell us her mother was on her way to drop off her suitcases and toys.i had never seen my oldest son so speechless especially when the young girl looked over at him and said we all knew and by the way she said I'M PREGNANT.my son who smokes newports went through an entire pack while his youngest brother played battleship with his young bride and future mother of his child...it took her mother and one of her uncles less than 20 minutes to come downstairs with the young girls suitcases and toys,they walked in and i just laughed when her mother slapped the shit out of my son and walked over to her daughter to warn her if she had anymore pregnancies with my son and disregarded her education they would move out and she will never see them again.she told my son as her uncle stood in his face daring him to say some stupid shit or do something that she understood he was fucking wrong but so was her daughter so make your fucking bed and sleep in it...i had already given his bedroom to my two youngest son and bought a fold up bed for him to sleep outside in the living room but even that became a fucking problem when me and my two sons could hear him having sex with her.i'd get up late at night like a crazy woman and come running out of my bedroom to stop my son from fucking the young girl who screamed and cried because she couldn't be like a grown women to take care of his sexual needs.my son like his father was a man who was too fucking stupid to understand they can't go around fucking young underage girls with a huge penis though i was 15 years old and his father was 21 years old.my two young sons would stand by their bedroom door watching me run into the bathroom with the young girl who was usually naked sexually hurt and scared.i'm serious when i tell you my son grew to hate this little girl and would punish her sexually then he met and fell in love with a 21 year old girl who moved in right across the hall.but by then the young girl was also angry having lost her baby due to complications of extreme sexual intercourse with my son and solely on her own went across the hall to tell this woman what he had done to her.though the young girl stayed living with us and slept in my room she had made her own arrangements with the women across the hall to make my sons life a living hell often inviting this women to come over and wait for my son to come home.the young girl started dating other men if only to make my sons life miserable and introduced these men to the woman across the hall.me and my youngest sons ignored it all even letting her mother,uncles and aunt come over to visit her.she did finish school and went on to become a morque mortician in new jersey and the young women across the hall went on to marry a very well known politician here in harlem...my oldest son died of a drug overdose back in 2012 and yes he did fall in love with the women across the hall but his actions and behavior was wrong and may god forgive us all for the choices we make....true story.