I hooked up with an older straight guy who was experimenting, and we've been seeing each other for a couple months.

He told me a few days ago that he thinks he's still straight and the reason he likes me is because I'm effeminate enough that he doesn't think of me as a man, but that's not enough anymore.

He said if I want to stay with him, he's going to feminize me. He's going to turn me into a girl.

I'll be the first to admit that, whatever genetic dice roll happened while I was growing up, I'm at the very least androgynous. People mistake me for a woman often enough it doesn't register anymore.

And I really think I love him, I want to stay with him, but I'm not sure I'm up to being a woman, and whatever he has in mind for 'feminization' sounds potentially terrifying? He said he doesn't want to castrate me or anything like that, but still...

Any advice? Should I stay with him and become a woman, or leave and lose someone I'm in love with?