Straight Male / 51
This story is about my first sexual encounter with another man, and it happened within the last few days.
My wife and I have been married for more than 30 years, and we have lived in several countries in the world. I am from the US, and she is from East Asia. I got a 3 year assignment to her home town in her home country, and she was so excited - our kids were grown and married by this time. She had a great time with friends including HS friends, and many old and new friends in the culture she never got a chance to experience as a mature adult, and she loved it. When my assignment was up, she told me she was not ready to leave, and this caused great conflict since I had not choice. I finally negotiated a deal with her where she would stay in her country for 6 months after I left, then join me in my new assignment in the US. But in our negotiation of this separation, I told her that even though I was now in my early 50s, I still had a very active sex drive, and asked her how she expected me to go 6 months without her. To my shock, she told me that now was the time for me to try out the fantasies I had confided in her for these last years that she could not fulfill for me. This was so unlike my wife, but I figured menopause was at play, and I have heard from other men of east Asia that such offers are made by their wives rather regularly as wives pass into and through menopause, and husbands still have active drives. Still, I did not want to be unfaithful, but my wife insisted that if I was safe, I was acting with her permission during this 6 month separation.
So as a young man, it never would have entered into my mind to have sexual desires toward another man. As I grew older, I don't know if the difference was physical, or mental, or a combination, but sometimes, I began having fantasies of giving another man a blowjob. I didn't find men attractive at all, and this is the strange part - I only had a faceless fantasy about one act. As I hit my 50's, I know I was also going through hormonal changes, and these urges became very strong. My wife knew about these, as well as about fantasies I had to make her cum multiple times by using only my mouth ... but my wife has never really been that excited about oral sex. I always inhale her essense deeply, and this immediately arouses me, but she has thought about oral sex as something I do to her to lubricate her so initial penetration is much easier. In times where she has found some excitement in oral sex performed on her, she has quickly pulled me up to penetrate her with my penis - the main thing that seems to give her sexual excitement ... and so this fantasy has gone unfulfilled in over 30 years of marriage. I have had desire for her to perform oral sex on me, and she has promised multiple times, but that has never resulted in her performing this to completion. At most, it was maybe 30 seconds before she wanted me to finish myself, or wanted me to penetrate her for vaginal sex. So this is the situation I found myself in.
I was heartbroken about the separation, but as I moved to a different country from my wife for a few months, I began to take her offer more seriously, and began to think about those fantasies. The fantasy to perform oral sex on another man became particularly strong, and so I put out an ad describing my situation, and what I was looking for, which was another married monagomaous man with his wife's permission, and no experience. I got a lot of responses that didn't fit that criteria, but oddly enough, the one I got that fit it, the guy really didn't think I'd be interested. He said he had told his wife about this, and had tried to meet someone before, but before they could meet, his wife became very uncomfortablwe with the guy, thinking he was not revealing his whole experience and would expose them much more than she wanted to be exposed. But as we exchanged email, she became very comfortable with me, and gave permission for him to go be with me. She didn't want to be there, though.
So we made arrangements to meet in a hotel I provided. He showed up, and we were both so nervous. We both knew what we wanted, but were unsure how to proceed, so eventually, I suggested we both get undressed, which we did. I moved close to him and took his dick in my hand. He then took my dick in his hand. He began to get a hint of an erection as I fondled him, but I did not. He commented about how thick I was, and said he was unsure he could get me all in his mouth when I was fully erect. (My wife can, even though she doesn't do it often, or for very long, so I was confident he could. I don't know how I compare with other man, and when he asked how long I had measured it to be, I had no answer because I really have never measured it.). But I remained flaccid, and he became semi-erect.
I invited him to lay back on the bed which he did. I got in a position like I do with my wife where she fondles me as I eat her to get me ready. I expected him to reach out and touch me like that, but he didn't. I started by licking his head around the edges and across his hole. His dick or balls twitched a little bit each time my tongue when over his hole, or around the V shape at the bottom of his head, so I assumed he was likeing this. He grew to nearly fully erect. So I took the head of his dick in my mouth and began sucking him, running my tongue around the head of his dick every time on the upward motion.
After a few minutes, he suggested that he also suck me, so I turned over on my back on the bed. Unfortunately, I was completely flaccid. He started sucking me, and although it felt good, my didn't start getting hard, and didn't feel like we were on the path to me orgasming.
After a few minutes of this, I suggested we go 69. We had a little different idea on this as I expected him to straddle my head, but instead, he lay beside me so that I had to get on my right side to suck him. This mean I was either very awkward with my left hand trying to stroke him and rub his balls as I sucked him, or I had to use my right hand while laying on my right arm, and that really limited my motion, so I made the suckiong mostly about tongue and mouth around his head. However; as we did this, I began to get hard - first time in our encounter.
After a few minutes, I changed position and got between his legs on the bed, and began sucking him more deeply and with more stroking with my hand. I had heard about people deep throating, but found I couldn't really do this. Instead, I went deep enough that he bottomed out at the back of my throat ... something he really seemed to like. As I continued to suck him, he announced, "I'm getting close" then very shortly afterwards announced "I'm going to come." I kept sucking him until his dick began twitching, and I tasted his cum in my mouth. At this point, I kept the head of his dick in my mouth and stroked him as his dick twitched for several seconds shooting more and more cum into my mouth. When it stopped, I swallowed it. I tried to milk more out of his dick, but that was all he had. I know that some guys (myself included) become extremely sensitive immediately after they cum, and their desire drops dramatically for a few moments, but in some of our best moments, I had learned from my wife how gently sucking, pulling off, and sucking again until the hyper-sensitivity subsides brings a guy to a very peaceful and good feeling. I tried to do this with him.
After a few minutes, he announced, "Now it's your turn," and he began sucking me ... but my dick had gone completely flaccid again. It's not like I was lacking in sexual excitement. What I had done - especially tasting and swallowing his cum was VERY exciting, but maybe I need the female pheromones to become fully aroused ... or at least need to not have the male pheromones be the main pheromones. I always inhale my wife deeply and eat her pussy before penetrating her, and this really brings me to full erection, but there was nothing we were doing that seemed to bring me to erection. Remembering how I got hard when we went 69, I tried this again. He made the comment that even though he had just come, that still felt very good, but I did not get erect.
When I sensed he might be getting impatient, I turned on some lesbian porn - something almost guaranteed to get me hard just thinking about it, but even watching this as he sucked me, I did not get hard. Finally, I took my dick in my own hand, put my left hand under my balls, and as I watched the port, I brought myself to that point of 3 - 4 seconds where there is no stopping it, and I announced to him as I was getting there, When I fully reached there, he took my dick back in his mouth, and I shot in his mouth. He made "mmm" noises like he liked that. When I finished, and he came up, his first words were, "So now we've both swallowed cum."
A few minutes later, he decided that afterwards, he didn't know what to do or say, so it was awkward. We quickly got dressed, then, and shortly after this, he left.
So I think about it, I was able to stimulate him to orgasm just about as quickly as I thought I could, and I very much enjoyed doing that. I loved having him cum in my mouth and swallowing it. But since we both stated beforehand that we looked forward to swallowing the other one's load, I think I had to be a disappointment to him ... just because he was not able to stimulate me to orgasm with his mouth.
That may not be his fault, either. I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE giving women oral sex, and another of my fantasies is bringing a woman to multiple orgasms using just my mouth. In that fantasy, she doesn't have to give me anything - just enjoy it enough to orgasm multiple times. I cannot fulfill this fantasy with my wife because she either thinks oral sex is what I do to make initial penetration easier, or in the times when she is excited and moves with the oral sex, she quickly pulls me up for my penis to penetrate her - what she really seems to enjoy. There is very little play with her - mostly she wants to get it in, and get to the process of orgasming ... which she may do 10 times in one session. Truthfully, I enjoy her orgasm more than I do my own orgasm, so I don't complain about this, but I really wish I could have my mouth on her pussy, maybe sucking on her clit when she orgasms ... at least sometimes. She can't seem to do that, though.
It seems this guy and I were similar in that we both wanted to give (suck and swallow) much more than we wanted to receive. and we received mainly to give the other person what he wanted which was to suck and swallow.
It was a first for both of us. He said as he was preparing to leave that he had to think of it, and how the reality compared to the fantasy. Unfortunately, I don't think I stacked up very well there. Now if he wanted to come over and wanted me to give him a blowjob again without me having the pressure to have to cum in his mouth, I would probably really enjoy that, and would be comfortable that we are both in a position with our wives' permission, and have been monogamous for many years and thus are D&D free, but I'm not sure why I have so much trouble getting to orgasm through a blowjob. It just doesn't seem like it's enough stimulation.
So I'll have to wait and see what he thinks. I still have several months before my wife rejoins me, and I would be with him again if he wanted - it's stress relief if nothing else. I enjoyed it a lot ... I just wish I could cum from a blowjob the way he wants me to ... but I have never had a blowjob full to completion from anybody, so maybe that is part of why it is difficult for me now in my 50s.
But that's how it happened. Now, I'll have to wait to see if there will be a repeat. If he will not repeat, I don't think I will seek out another man just because the risk it too large - and it takes a while for each to gather confidence that the other really is in the situation he says, and so is maybe safer than the crowd at large (but nothing is without risk).
My wife and I have been married for more than 30 years, and we have lived in several countries in the world. I am from the US, and she is from East Asia. I got a 3 year assignment to her home town in her home country, and she was so excited - our kids were grown and married by this time. She had a great time with friends including HS friends, and many old and new friends in the culture she never got a chance to experience as a mature adult, and she loved it. When my assignment was up, she told me she was not ready to leave, and this caused great conflict since I had not choice. I finally negotiated a deal with her where she would stay in her country for 6 months after I left, then join me in my new assignment in the US. But in our negotiation of this separation, I told her that even though I was now in my early 50s, I still had a very active sex drive, and asked her how she expected me to go 6 months without her. To my shock, she told me that now was the time for me to try out the fantasies I had confided in her for these last years that she could not fulfill for me. This was so unlike my wife, but I figured menopause was at play, and I have heard from other men of east Asia that such offers are made by their wives rather regularly as wives pass into and through menopause, and husbands still have active drives. Still, I did not want to be unfaithful, but my wife insisted that if I was safe, I was acting with her permission during this 6 month separation.
So as a young man, it never would have entered into my mind to have sexual desires toward another man. As I grew older, I don't know if the difference was physical, or mental, or a combination, but sometimes, I began having fantasies of giving another man a blowjob. I didn't find men attractive at all, and this is the strange part - I only had a faceless fantasy about one act. As I hit my 50's, I know I was also going through hormonal changes, and these urges became very strong. My wife knew about these, as well as about fantasies I had to make her cum multiple times by using only my mouth ... but my wife has never really been that excited about oral sex. I always inhale her essense deeply, and this immediately arouses me, but she has thought about oral sex as something I do to her to lubricate her so initial penetration is much easier. In times where she has found some excitement in oral sex performed on her, she has quickly pulled me up to penetrate her with my penis - the main thing that seems to give her sexual excitement ... and so this fantasy has gone unfulfilled in over 30 years of marriage. I have had desire for her to perform oral sex on me, and she has promised multiple times, but that has never resulted in her performing this to completion. At most, it was maybe 30 seconds before she wanted me to finish myself, or wanted me to penetrate her for vaginal sex. So this is the situation I found myself in.
I was heartbroken about the separation, but as I moved to a different country from my wife for a few months, I began to take her offer more seriously, and began to think about those fantasies. The fantasy to perform oral sex on another man became particularly strong, and so I put out an ad describing my situation, and what I was looking for, which was another married monagomaous man with his wife's permission, and no experience. I got a lot of responses that didn't fit that criteria, but oddly enough, the one I got that fit it, the guy really didn't think I'd be interested. He said he had told his wife about this, and had tried to meet someone before, but before they could meet, his wife became very uncomfortablwe with the guy, thinking he was not revealing his whole experience and would expose them much more than she wanted to be exposed. But as we exchanged email, she became very comfortable with me, and gave permission for him to go be with me. She didn't want to be there, though.
So we made arrangements to meet in a hotel I provided. He showed up, and we were both so nervous. We both knew what we wanted, but were unsure how to proceed, so eventually, I suggested we both get undressed, which we did. I moved close to him and took his dick in my hand. He then took my dick in his hand. He began to get a hint of an erection as I fondled him, but I did not. He commented about how thick I was, and said he was unsure he could get me all in his mouth when I was fully erect. (My wife can, even though she doesn't do it often, or for very long, so I was confident he could. I don't know how I compare with other man, and when he asked how long I had measured it to be, I had no answer because I really have never measured it.). But I remained flaccid, and he became semi-erect.
I invited him to lay back on the bed which he did. I got in a position like I do with my wife where she fondles me as I eat her to get me ready. I expected him to reach out and touch me like that, but he didn't. I started by licking his head around the edges and across his hole. His dick or balls twitched a little bit each time my tongue when over his hole, or around the V shape at the bottom of his head, so I assumed he was likeing this. He grew to nearly fully erect. So I took the head of his dick in my mouth and began sucking him, running my tongue around the head of his dick every time on the upward motion.
After a few minutes, he suggested that he also suck me, so I turned over on my back on the bed. Unfortunately, I was completely flaccid. He started sucking me, and although it felt good, my didn't start getting hard, and didn't feel like we were on the path to me orgasming.
After a few minutes of this, I suggested we go 69. We had a little different idea on this as I expected him to straddle my head, but instead, he lay beside me so that I had to get on my right side to suck him. This mean I was either very awkward with my left hand trying to stroke him and rub his balls as I sucked him, or I had to use my right hand while laying on my right arm, and that really limited my motion, so I made the suckiong mostly about tongue and mouth around his head. However; as we did this, I began to get hard - first time in our encounter.
After a few minutes, I changed position and got between his legs on the bed, and began sucking him more deeply and with more stroking with my hand. I had heard about people deep throating, but found I couldn't really do this. Instead, I went deep enough that he bottomed out at the back of my throat ... something he really seemed to like. As I continued to suck him, he announced, "I'm getting close" then very shortly afterwards announced "I'm going to come." I kept sucking him until his dick began twitching, and I tasted his cum in my mouth. At this point, I kept the head of his dick in my mouth and stroked him as his dick twitched for several seconds shooting more and more cum into my mouth. When it stopped, I swallowed it. I tried to milk more out of his dick, but that was all he had. I know that some guys (myself included) become extremely sensitive immediately after they cum, and their desire drops dramatically for a few moments, but in some of our best moments, I had learned from my wife how gently sucking, pulling off, and sucking again until the hyper-sensitivity subsides brings a guy to a very peaceful and good feeling. I tried to do this with him.
After a few minutes, he announced, "Now it's your turn," and he began sucking me ... but my dick had gone completely flaccid again. It's not like I was lacking in sexual excitement. What I had done - especially tasting and swallowing his cum was VERY exciting, but maybe I need the female pheromones to become fully aroused ... or at least need to not have the male pheromones be the main pheromones. I always inhale my wife deeply and eat her pussy before penetrating her, and this really brings me to full erection, but there was nothing we were doing that seemed to bring me to erection. Remembering how I got hard when we went 69, I tried this again. He made the comment that even though he had just come, that still felt very good, but I did not get erect.
When I sensed he might be getting impatient, I turned on some lesbian porn - something almost guaranteed to get me hard just thinking about it, but even watching this as he sucked me, I did not get hard. Finally, I took my dick in my own hand, put my left hand under my balls, and as I watched the port, I brought myself to that point of 3 - 4 seconds where there is no stopping it, and I announced to him as I was getting there, When I fully reached there, he took my dick back in his mouth, and I shot in his mouth. He made "mmm" noises like he liked that. When I finished, and he came up, his first words were, "So now we've both swallowed cum."
A few minutes later, he decided that afterwards, he didn't know what to do or say, so it was awkward. We quickly got dressed, then, and shortly after this, he left.
So I think about it, I was able to stimulate him to orgasm just about as quickly as I thought I could, and I very much enjoyed doing that. I loved having him cum in my mouth and swallowing it. But since we both stated beforehand that we looked forward to swallowing the other one's load, I think I had to be a disappointment to him ... just because he was not able to stimulate me to orgasm with his mouth.
That may not be his fault, either. I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE giving women oral sex, and another of my fantasies is bringing a woman to multiple orgasms using just my mouth. In that fantasy, she doesn't have to give me anything - just enjoy it enough to orgasm multiple times. I cannot fulfill this fantasy with my wife because she either thinks oral sex is what I do to make initial penetration easier, or in the times when she is excited and moves with the oral sex, she quickly pulls me up for my penis to penetrate her - what she really seems to enjoy. There is very little play with her - mostly she wants to get it in, and get to the process of orgasming ... which she may do 10 times in one session. Truthfully, I enjoy her orgasm more than I do my own orgasm, so I don't complain about this, but I really wish I could have my mouth on her pussy, maybe sucking on her clit when she orgasms ... at least sometimes. She can't seem to do that, though.
It seems this guy and I were similar in that we both wanted to give (suck and swallow) much more than we wanted to receive. and we received mainly to give the other person what he wanted which was to suck and swallow.
It was a first for both of us. He said as he was preparing to leave that he had to think of it, and how the reality compared to the fantasy. Unfortunately, I don't think I stacked up very well there. Now if he wanted to come over and wanted me to give him a blowjob again without me having the pressure to have to cum in his mouth, I would probably really enjoy that, and would be comfortable that we are both in a position with our wives' permission, and have been monogamous for many years and thus are D&D free, but I'm not sure why I have so much trouble getting to orgasm through a blowjob. It just doesn't seem like it's enough stimulation.
So I'll have to wait and see what he thinks. I still have several months before my wife rejoins me, and I would be with him again if he wanted - it's stress relief if nothing else. I enjoyed it a lot ... I just wish I could cum from a blowjob the way he wants me to ... but I have never had a blowjob full to completion from anybody, so maybe that is part of why it is difficult for me now in my 50s.
But that's how it happened. Now, I'll have to wait to see if there will be a repeat. If he will not repeat, I don't think I will seek out another man just because the risk it too large - and it takes a while for each to gather confidence that the other really is in the situation he says, and so is maybe safer than the crowd at large (but nothing is without risk).
