Straight Female / 35
I work at a large corporation as a secretary. I'm 35, married for 12 years with two sons, and have worked here for almost 15 years now.
There was another department manager named "Tony" that always found a reason to come around my managers office. He was a few years younger than me and had a rep for hitting on anything that moved. I could see he was just coming around to check me and other secretaries out and I didn't particularly care for him at all. He would make remarks about my appearance, complimentary ones, and I'd often catch him staring at my breasts or legs. It was flattering but uncomfortable also and since he did that to almost every reasonably attractive woman there I tried to ignore it. He was married as well which bothered a lot of women there and several had complained privately about him.
My marriage was good, we have our fights and such but we've stayed together, and I DO love my husband.
However, we had an office Christmas party this past Christmas, just an unofficial one among ourselves, after work on a Friday night. It was about 40 of us that work in our department. The official Corporate Christmas party was the next night.
That night I had a few too many glasses of wine and was approached by "Tony".
We had a nice conversation and I moved on.
But, several minutes later, we found ourselves engaged in another conversation.
It was getting loud and we went in the hallway to talk.
He leaned in and kissed and, for some reason, I kissed him back.
Several minutes later we were in his office, on the couch, pulling our clothes off and I drunkenly told him that I'd always been attracted to him and I performed oral sex on him.
We had sex, and I was willing, but I was so in shock after we were done, and in a panic that someone might have noticed us drift off together, that I dressed quickly and went back to the party.
Before the party had ended "Tony" and I had slipped into his office one more time for another round.
I was drunk but that's no excuse because I was very willing. I still don't know why. I just lost control for a while.
At the corporate party the next night I heard one of my coworkers, a guy, gossiping to another guy that "Tony banged Carol in billing twice last night!" and laughing.
The other guy, Jude, remarked that I was "uptight" but he figured I had a hidden side.
They didn't know I was behind them and listening. He'd boasted to his friends at work that we'd had sex. I was so humiliated. Everyone knew that I was married. "Tony" may have kept it quiet that he was married too but that made him no less guilty than myself. My husband was there with me and if he'd have heard or found out I would have died!
I went in to work Monday morning and filed a sexual harassment complaint against "Tony". I'd talked to three other women that were also stating that they were going to complain about him recently and they did that morning as well.
"Tony" was terminated that day.
He appealed it to the corporation and a few weeks later we had a hearing with lawyers present for him and the corporation.
The other women ended up dropping their complaints on the condition "Tony" attend regular counseling on "sexual harassment".
I was called in and when his attorney asked if "Tony" and I had ever engaged in "sexual activity with each other" I lied and said no. The lawyer asked if "Tony" and I had "sexual intercourse" in his office twice on that Friday and if I had ever performed oral sex on him and I lied again. He then asked if we'd engaged in "sexual intercourse" twice that evening and again I lied.
When the corporate people had interviewed me they asked me the same questions and I lied to them as well.
"Tony's" termination was upheld by corporate and he filed a lawsuit against the corporation and myself.
Yesterday, I gave my statement and his attorney asked me if I had ever been "nude or semi-dressed" in Tony's presence.
I lied and said "No".
He asked if I'd ever discussed sex, my body, his body or my sexual interests or activities with "Tony" or had ever kissed him.
I said "No" to all.
I lied again.
Then his attorney asked if I had entered his office at all that evening and I lied again.
Then the attorney stated that his client stated, in his statement and would in his testimony, that I had a small tattoo of a rose in a very private area and a scar on my inner thigh near my private area which was shaved. He also stated that another employee was set to testify that I had walked off with Tony during the party for quite a while.
He asked if I had any "...scars,markings,tattoos or piercings in any private area that would be concealed by clothes...".
I do.
I got the rose with my sister after high school, it's my only one, and the scar is from an accident when I was 12 climbing a fence.
My lawyer objected that I did not have to answer and they all began arguing.
My husband looked right at me and I knew at that instant that he knew I had been unfaithful to him.
I am so ashamed.
I began crying right there and was so upset that the judge adjourned us for the day.
I'm not a bad person and I have NEVER cheated before and NEVER will again I swear.
But I will be back there Monday morning.
My husband drove me home and did not say a word to me.
He knows that I lied and he knows I cheated.
He is sleeping right now.
I am so afraid.
I may have ruined "Tony's" life and I may have destroyed my marriage and my reputation.
I think I have to tell the truth tonight to my husband and tomorrow to the judge.
I could be in a lot of trouble and I'm pretty sure that I will lose my job for this.
I'm not a horrible person.
I don't even know why I did it.
I didn't even like "Tony".
I'm truly sorry.
Pray for me please.
There was another department manager named "Tony" that always found a reason to come around my managers office. He was a few years younger than me and had a rep for hitting on anything that moved. I could see he was just coming around to check me and other secretaries out and I didn't particularly care for him at all. He would make remarks about my appearance, complimentary ones, and I'd often catch him staring at my breasts or legs. It was flattering but uncomfortable also and since he did that to almost every reasonably attractive woman there I tried to ignore it. He was married as well which bothered a lot of women there and several had complained privately about him.
My marriage was good, we have our fights and such but we've stayed together, and I DO love my husband.
However, we had an office Christmas party this past Christmas, just an unofficial one among ourselves, after work on a Friday night. It was about 40 of us that work in our department. The official Corporate Christmas party was the next night.
That night I had a few too many glasses of wine and was approached by "Tony".
We had a nice conversation and I moved on.
But, several minutes later, we found ourselves engaged in another conversation.
It was getting loud and we went in the hallway to talk.
He leaned in and kissed and, for some reason, I kissed him back.
Several minutes later we were in his office, on the couch, pulling our clothes off and I drunkenly told him that I'd always been attracted to him and I performed oral sex on him.
We had sex, and I was willing, but I was so in shock after we were done, and in a panic that someone might have noticed us drift off together, that I dressed quickly and went back to the party.
Before the party had ended "Tony" and I had slipped into his office one more time for another round.
I was drunk but that's no excuse because I was very willing. I still don't know why. I just lost control for a while.
At the corporate party the next night I heard one of my coworkers, a guy, gossiping to another guy that "Tony banged Carol in billing twice last night!" and laughing.
The other guy, Jude, remarked that I was "uptight" but he figured I had a hidden side.
They didn't know I was behind them and listening. He'd boasted to his friends at work that we'd had sex. I was so humiliated. Everyone knew that I was married. "Tony" may have kept it quiet that he was married too but that made him no less guilty than myself. My husband was there with me and if he'd have heard or found out I would have died!
I went in to work Monday morning and filed a sexual harassment complaint against "Tony". I'd talked to three other women that were also stating that they were going to complain about him recently and they did that morning as well.
"Tony" was terminated that day.
He appealed it to the corporation and a few weeks later we had a hearing with lawyers present for him and the corporation.
The other women ended up dropping their complaints on the condition "Tony" attend regular counseling on "sexual harassment".
I was called in and when his attorney asked if "Tony" and I had ever engaged in "sexual activity with each other" I lied and said no. The lawyer asked if "Tony" and I had "sexual intercourse" in his office twice on that Friday and if I had ever performed oral sex on him and I lied again. He then asked if we'd engaged in "sexual intercourse" twice that evening and again I lied.
When the corporate people had interviewed me they asked me the same questions and I lied to them as well.
"Tony's" termination was upheld by corporate and he filed a lawsuit against the corporation and myself.
Yesterday, I gave my statement and his attorney asked me if I had ever been "nude or semi-dressed" in Tony's presence.
I lied and said "No".
He asked if I'd ever discussed sex, my body, his body or my sexual interests or activities with "Tony" or had ever kissed him.
I said "No" to all.
I lied again.
Then his attorney asked if I had entered his office at all that evening and I lied again.
Then the attorney stated that his client stated, in his statement and would in his testimony, that I had a small tattoo of a rose in a very private area and a scar on my inner thigh near my private area which was shaved. He also stated that another employee was set to testify that I had walked off with Tony during the party for quite a while.
He asked if I had any "...scars,markings,tattoos or piercings in any private area that would be concealed by clothes...".
I do.
I got the rose with my sister after high school, it's my only one, and the scar is from an accident when I was 12 climbing a fence.
My lawyer objected that I did not have to answer and they all began arguing.
My husband looked right at me and I knew at that instant that he knew I had been unfaithful to him.
I am so ashamed.
I began crying right there and was so upset that the judge adjourned us for the day.
I'm not a bad person and I have NEVER cheated before and NEVER will again I swear.
But I will be back there Monday morning.
My husband drove me home and did not say a word to me.
He knows that I lied and he knows I cheated.
He is sleeping right now.
I am so afraid.
I may have ruined "Tony's" life and I may have destroyed my marriage and my reputation.
I think I have to tell the truth tonight to my husband and tomorrow to the judge.
I could be in a lot of trouble and I'm pretty sure that I will lose my job for this.
I'm not a horrible person.
I don't even know why I did it.
I didn't even like "Tony".
I'm truly sorry.
Pray for me please.
