This is probably going to be a little boring, but I'm just feeling the need to vent. So here it goes...

I've been maried for over 25 years and have a really good life. Good job, good kids and by all rights a fantastic wife in all aspects except one... sex

When we were first maried sex was good, but after our kids were born things pretty much came to an abrupt halt. She stayed at home with the kids and I worked nights. Which put us on opposite schedules. She rarely instigated sex before but now never. I was getting a little frustrated but could deal. Things progressed to the I'm tired, I have a headache etc... stage and when the occasional sex did happen she approached it like just another household chore.

Things went on like this for a few years and I tried to be understanding of her feelings and cope the best I could. I ended up having an affair with a coworker's wife for about six months. We both almost ended our respective marriages, but decided we both loved our spouses and kids more than each other.

After the affair I decided sex just wasn't worth all of the fucking disappointment and stress. When masturbating to porn wasn't enough I'd go to my wife for mediocre sex and hope I didn't get shot down.

Things progressed like this for several more years until I pretty much lost interest in having sex with my wife. It just wasn't worth the trouble. Once I reached that conclusion I was more less content with my life.

Fast forward to present day. My wife approaches me and asks why we don't have sex anymore. "Don't you find me attractive anymore?" and such. Yes she is still very attractive and I told her as much, but I also told her she obviously hasn't found me attractive for the last 20 years and I just got tired of trying. The reaction I got to this revelation wasn't really what I expected...

Utter and complete confusion.

She was completely shocked that I felt that way. I guess communication really is key huh. I had tried tell her how I was feeling in the past but it always fell on deaf ears. She seemed ready to talk about now so I told her everything from my point of view, feelings and yes, even the affair from 15 years ago. She had no idea about any of it. She told me she just never thought sex was that important. Yeah sure she enjoys it, would orgasm pretty much everytime, but it's just sex... no big deal.

What happened next was the most incredible sex we had ever had. I'm in my late forties and I managed to cum three times that night and she actually squirted for the first time in her life. Twice. Our combined juices were literally gushing out of her pussy by the end of the night. It was the most inedible sex either of us had ever had.

After that night she started doings things I would never have imagined. She started sexting pics while I was at work, she bought new toys and filmed herself using them. She decided she wanted to try anal. Dear god she loved it!!! It lead to another session like we had after our talk. After the initial slow careful entry she started talking dirty. She had never done that before. Holy crap that was a turn on!!! Her asshole was so incredibly tight coupled with her telling me to fuck her ass, I blew my load in about 2 minutes. I apologized for being a short timer. She just looked back at me and said I'm patient I'll just occupy my self until you get hard again. She stayed just like she was, head down ass up in the air and started rubbing her clit and moaning. I started to get hard again almost instantly. She pushed some of my cum out of her ass and rubbed it around her pussy lips. It completely sent me over the moon. I was completely hard again. I put some more lube on my cock and gently slid the head in her ass. As soon as I got it in I slammed my full length into her. She immediately drenched my balls and our bed. Her screaming to "fucking pound my ass" and "does my ass feel good wrapped around you cock" sent me over the edge three more times. After over 25 years of marriage I wasn't just content, I completely happy.

This bliss went on for about six months. Now it seems we are back to almost where we were before. While she rarely turns me down for sex now, it seems we're back to me having to initiate it EVERY time. She won't sext anymore because she doesn't think it's safe. No more lingerie or wearing sexy clothes when we go out unless I specifically ask. (which completely ruins the fun).

I realize there is going to be hot and cold stretches in any relationship but this goes well beyond that. When I tried to discuss it or anything else sexual in nature there is an immediate change of subject. It's been a little over a year now since our sex life died again

My first thought was she was having an affair of her own, but it's really just not possible time wise. I'm beginning to think she saw me coming to terms with our previous lack of a sex life and couldn't stand to see me being in a contented state. So she fired up our sex life just enough reinvigorate my sex drive to make sure I'm miserable when she goes back to being a cold fish.

I made a completely childish decision. I decided I wasn't going to have sex with her again until she initiated it... it's been 3 months now and counting... I've been completely fucking miserable (and pathetic) this whole time.

I'm really really thinking about leaving her. I do still love her and all other aspects of our marriage are great. I'm just not sure this is something I can or want to get past. Since our kids our gone, the only other thing or things slowing me down are losing my house and my retirement account.

Ok... Venting done