My great-Aunt and Uncle have 2 kids..both of which are in their mid-late 30's. The whole family (except their son, who is the youngest of the 2) goes to church, lives a really old faashioned lifestyle, and rarely accept any type of changes in their lives. Their Daughter who is the oldest is like 38 years old, still a virgin, never been on a date, never wears makeup, and lives by every word my aunt says. The problem is, she desperately wants a family of her own, because my Aunt isnt going to be around forever to take care of her. But she is literally TERRIFIED to ask her mother for any type of adult freedom. My Aunt even tells her who she can and can not be friends with. "Becca" my cousin, has confided in me that she wants to become more adult like. I want to help her tell my Aunt that its time to cut the apron strings but I don't know how, without seeming like I am butting in their business.
The other problem, is their son "Kevin". Kevin weighs about 450 pounds (both becca and kevin are morbidly obese and have horrible oral hygiene, both are virgins..forbidden to date!), and he barely keeps a job. He sits around and demands things from Becca who quit her job to stay at home with my Aunt who is blind. But Kevin just treats his family like dirt while he sits around and eats everything in the house. I feel like someone needs to step in and say something. Im not usually one to butt in other peoples business, but this time, I feel like I almost have to. If I am talking to Becca on the phone, my Aunt will pick up the other phone and insists on knowing what we are talking about. BECCA IS A GROWN ASS WOMAN.
To top it off, my Aunt is a bible THUMPER. Her church is everything to her, her FEMALE minister basically runs her life, and she lives by the book. But I see her going against alot of things that the bible speaks about. She loves to gossip. She fed her kids whatever they wanted and now they are obese (gluttony in the bible). She has a female minister. And she basically doesn't let her kids make their own decisions.
What do I do? Do I say something or just keep my mouth shut? becca is begging for my help but I just dont want to piss my aunt off, because we are actually pretty close. I love my family but I just see so many things wrong. If my Aunt and uncle were to die (god forbid) but Kevin and becca would have no clue as to how to live! They don't even know how to write a check! Its just nuts. What do I do??