Why not have him served with divorce papers while you're at it?
He'll be better off without a fair weather wife such as you.
Fair weather wife? that's bullshit. I've stuck by him for the past 20 years through thick and thin. Our house burned down and I took care of his aunt now his mother, not to mention his lack of ambition to rebuild a house, he had to be pushed. Every one tells me I'm a saint for sticking with him. He's got a fucking cold for god's sake, not dying. he thinks whining will get my attention. yet He's got it when he doesn't whine. I give him tea, water, go out in the middle of the night and get nyquil whatever it takes to make him comfy. He's never once done that for me. As a matter of fact when I had surgery the nurses told him not to smoke around me. When we got home he lit up and said tuff shit its my house too!! And I didn't complain, I went to the bed room and shut the door. You're right I should serve him with divorce papers for the rubbish I've put up with. I just can't afford it.
Make a video of you taking it up the butt from a big black guy. Right after the dude blasts a load on your ass look right into the camera and say "I want a divorce asshole." Then send him the vid - simple and effective (plus fun)!
Then who's the asshole?
Him, who was, according to you, always an ambitionless, complaining loser, or you, who stuck with him rather than getting off your big ass and getting a well paying career and a productive husband?