I just cannot let go of what happened.

My brother brought home a friend from college. My father told him that if he wanted me he could have me.

I got married at seventeen. I had to go sleep with him that night so we could become man and wife. I never dated anyone, and was married to a boy who was at college and you don't cheat on your husband.

I was still a freshman at college when he graduated and we had to move for his job. I went to college at a city college instead of the state college because I was married. For the next twenty years we moved four times, twice overseas. I essentially had to stay with low paying jobs or not work. I also had four children.

I am over protective because of what happened to me. I never felt like I had a chance to choose, by father and brother chose for me. My husband says I am making too much out what is not a big deal. It wasn't a big deal to him, but that is not how I felt and I can't just let it go. My dream is that my daughter have a chance at a romantic experience, with a boy of her choice, something I never had. It may be that we have to interfere if she chooses wrong, but at least she should have a chance to see if she meets a boy she would like to be with and not given away like a old coat that is no longer useful.