My husband is older than me and was married once before. I just want to be able to please him sexually and could use some advice. Like, what do you guys like? I guess, just so you know, he's pretty girthy. Not like freakishly or really long. It's just I can't really close my hand around it and it's about average length, but I'm pretty tiny so it can hurt a little when we start. He's more experienced than me and I had very limited before him. So any ideas and the like, fellas?