An old boyfriend came to see me. He is into nothing, unemployed and never grew up. No reason for anyone to get jealous.

But my boss came out of his office and told him to leave me alone. In his words to get lost and stay lost. That I was his woman and no one bothered his woman. I didn't know I was his woman.

After my ex left he called me into my office and told me that I needed to get myself together and that I was not to speak with my ex again. Since I hadn't set boundaries, he was setting the boundaries. I was off limits to my ex.

What do you say or do? what can you say or do? I went back to my office but couldn't work. A half hour later he came into my office and told me that a man sets limits around his woman, his home and his country, and no m-f was going get close to his woman. Again, what do you do or say? Nothing. You can't say anything. He said it.

I waited until it was time to go home and I went into his office and I asked him if I had permission to go home, or was I to go home with him. I needed to know. He said since that m-f was in town I was to go home with him.

I won't pretend that his actions or his words didn't bother me, they did. But being his woman is good. He is gentle and kind and he takes care of me. The sex is good, he is experienced and he knows how to make me want to be with him. He is not overly demanding, learning to live with him took some time, but I think most men are demanding at home. From time to time I get the ownership stuff, but it pretty much roles off my back now. It is what it is.

How different is it to say that you are a man's wife, or a man's woman. Either way you are saying you are his. In my case he said it first, and I say it now. I don't say I am his woman, I say I am his wife or his girlfriend. I can't hold him off very long for sex, but I have gotten him to say yes that I am his wife before letting him in. Now I need to get the piece of paper. And with the piece of paper then he becomes mine, and he is not too crazy about having to become mine. He knows that his house is mine and his business is mine. I have told him, he declared first, all I am doing it agreeing. I want the piece of paper. With the piece of paper I will be his wife, and not his girlfriend, but still his woman, and he will be my husband, he is already my man.

I never believed in marriage but I do now.