This is true, I was in my late twenties before I accepted I was a woman, and in my early thirties before I permitted a man to be intimate with me, in my mid thirties before I closed my eyes and took the plunge of becoming a mother, which I did twice on advice of my mother. I struggle everyday with this, my children's father is understanding, but frustrated. I am frustrated. I have to spend a long few minutes everyday getting used to the fact, playing the part, being the part.

Marrying him is the last straw, changing my name, I am doing this for my children, not for him.