New to town I joined a dating sight for older men. I met this man through the dating sight, we met at a restaurant and had a good conversation. He was married but liked to get together from time to time to explore his feminine side. We did go down the road to this motel and he was quite comfortable so we had a nice lazy afternoon. I am divorced myself and to be frank I needed a nice lazy afternoon where I could just enjoy this other side of me.

I date women but I am not interested in getting married again, not now. Other than my friend that I met via the dating sight, I have met a few other men by going to bars. I gravitate to my friend from the dating sight, we get along well and he is comfortable with a lot of caressing and kissing, not just sex from the outset. I am more like him, I prefer not to have to initiate, I would like to lay back and enjoy the attention. If it weren't that we are so much alike we would probably have a better time.

I met a man who teaches yoga. He is a retired executive who got into the yoga thing via his wife. He prefers to lead and we have had a good time, we just don't have chemistry. And his resurgent need to be a triathlete doesn't fit my character. Suffice it to say that my friend from the dating sight is my most frequent contact, since I am divorced I can entertain at home. He is in outside sales for a manufacturer so he can set his own hours. We swap sides, but in the end its still forced behavior, its not in our nature to get aggressive.

I feel sort of bad dating women and leading them on. I am free now to enjoy playing ball with a buddy and not entertaining a lady. But if I don't date women then I find it hard to explain what I am doing about my single status.