We all have different history of how we started having sex. I started dating at 16. My first few dates no effort was made to get past first base with me. I got a steady boyfriend my senior year. He was a sweet guy. He started fondling me some which I loved. If I touched him he would climax in his pants. He fingered me a lot and I quess I can say he was my first. Three times we had the condom and he would climax before he got in me. Other issues we parted relationship. The next summer an older married guy charmed me so I got experienced at real sex. He started not pulling out sometimes. I realized I needed to end this relationship so I did. I then met my husband in college. We really fell for each other. The things we do are comparable to porn movies. I told him about my first boyfriend but not the married lover. We have two young children and thinking about a third. If we decide on a third I know my husband will do his part.