I am, I think, a fairly well adjusted 30 year old woman with a woman. I am also married to a man and the three of us live together. He has his flings but he does come around asking for my favors. He also askes my girlfriend for her favors and she has gives him her favors but we generally keep to our own kind, he has his flings and he leaves us alone to live our life.

Several weeks ago one of the girls he has been involved with wanted to get serious and the subject came up about our marriage. He and I got married back then (that was eight years ago) so that he could get his papers. He was here on a student visa and he graduated from graduate school and he didn't want to go home, and I was unattached (at that time totally unaware that I was destined to find a woman) and I agreed to get married so he could get his papers. All that worked out fine, he has a very high paying career whereas mine is so-so and we did consumate the marriage just in case and we have lived together ever since, although other than a consummation and once in a while sex we kept separate lives until I met my girlfriend and she moved in with us.

If he comes and asks me to have sex I will, he is my husband and I am his wife. I changed my name a long time ago. I never had him sign any kind of papers protecting my property (I have a substantial trust fund as well as own several pieces of commercial real estate for income purposes that are outside of the Trust). I enjoy having sex with him, it is very rewarding emotionally and sexually pleasurable, the more often the better. I like having sex with him. My girlfriend not so much, she will have sex with him to please me. I never try to get involved with his affairs.

Unlike his other flings this girl has stuck around and butted her nose into our business. She wants to move in and live with him. He asked me if that was something I could live with. I said no. Period. I know that I have my girlfriend living with me, she is far more than a girlfriend she and I have been together for over five years and we hold ourselves out as a couple. He has his wife and I have my wife kind of thing. Yes we have an open marriage on his part but not on mine I am strictly a one man wife (no man has gone where he has gone or ever will). It isn't an economic thing, he now earns a nice salary on his own, to me it is a wife thing. For however our lives have turned out I am his wife and he is my husband and I really, and I mean really do not want another woman living with him. I am here, at anytime to be with him. He can have his flings, but I don't want another woman living in the house.

I know that fair is fair and all that, but I am now having to set down a rule that I never thought he would ask for. I don't want to sound unfair, it is just that for me having another woman living with him will ruin everything, for all of us. I am not scared of a divorce, I am scared of losing him.