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Sorry I just need to rant..........My wife, and I have not had sex in over a year. I have no idea what happened it just stopped, I’m pretty sure if it never happened again she’d be happy with it.
She will use the promise of sex to get me to do things that I don’t want to do. She’ll promise me a bj if I go to one of her friends house that she knows I can’t stand, them it never happens I keep falling for the fake promises in hopes that it comes true. I have tried on multiple occasions to get her to have sex but I’m shot down every-time. I don’t know what to do, any advise?

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# 47612 - by Servitorgreen / October 7, 2020
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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Oct 7, 2020 at 4:41 AM

I have been married for over thirty years to this wife, I loved the same life as you, started in my late twenties, same story almost verbatim ,,,,
I turned to gay sex on the side, getting head from other men,on and off for years,
But life never changed, on trips were I hoped we would have fun because she always said it was the stress of our everyday life, her kids and such, but it was always worse on trips.... then about seven years ago I turned to having gay sex on the side again, this time I switched roles... I took the first cook on me, it changed me, I craved it, I did all kinds of kinky sex, I did get busted on the computer by her, from then on she changed to become for sexual to save our marriage , but to tell the truth I now desire gay submissive sex more, we still have a good sex life too, but man I want cock

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Oct 7, 2020 at 5:05 AM

Get paid up front. She wants you to do something and promises sex, then get her to put out first. She won't give then you don't give.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Oct 7, 2020 at 6:21 AM

If you don't have kids trade her in for a more enthusiastic model, now. If you don't you'll grow old bitter and resentful. No point in giving her an ultimatum to change, if she gives in under sufferance it won't work.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Oct 7, 2020 at 6:37 AM

My wife is the same way. When she hit menopause everything stopped. She was such a slut when we met and during most of our marriage. She even complained that I didn't want sex as much as her. I am listed on gay sites and have had some gay sex throughout the years and I am very close to starting with a man.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Oct 7, 2020 at 7:37 AM

Like the previous post says, get the bj or whatever you want beforehand.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Oct 7, 2020 at 10:56 AM

Agree with the above, especially commenter number three.
Staying with her is really a bad move if you want a happy normal life.
The fact that she promises sex for whatever, even if she did follow up, is an absolute red flag.
Sex is not something to negotiate for in a marriage.
If you're OK with working for it, you might as well get yourself a professional call girl and you'll enjoy it.
Sounds like your wife's got way more than sex issues.
Sounds like she's got serious mental problems and honestly you're a young guy and you should run, not walk, away from that manipulating woman.

If you're not willing or able to drop her, then the other suggestion of getting paid up front is a valid idea too, but personally I don't think a blowjob is worth living with a nutcase and a manipulative person like that.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Oct 7, 2020 at 10:58 AM

Resentment is poisonous to a marriage. If she ain’t putting out at this age then there’s some thing seriously wrong here. She maybe getting some side action.

Tell her this is bs, causing resentment and will result in negative consequences for your marriage.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Oct 12, 2020 at 2:12 PM

Been married for many years. Your story is all too familiar. Men are visual, women are emotional. For men sex is the glue that keeps your bond together and strong.

You need to sit down and have a long talk with her and make your frustrations clear.

If she cares about your marriage she'll try to change, but she'll probably expect some things from you too that you aren't even aware yet that she's upset about.

My only question would be how is your sex life? Do you make sure she is satisfied? If its just always you getting off she might not enjoy it and figure if I don't get off he doesnt get to either.

You think she might be getting it somewhere else? Work maybe?

You're too young to be at this point in your marriage. Certainly not how you would want it to continue for years. Good luck.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Oct 21, 2020 at 8:26 PM

She is fucking one of the husbands of those friends you do not like to visit. Simple as that.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Nov 28, 2020 at 11:16 PM

We went through a lot of big dry spells. For me... I mostly wanted my husband to man-up and just TAKE me. I wouldn't even mind if he lent me to some of his friends to use roughly. I mean, how do you tell your husband that you want him to set you up to get gangr**ed? I'm not bold like that so I just teased and said 'no' every time until he got tired enough to force himself on me. It wasn't a gangr**e but it was enough. What really got through to my husband was when he started going through my internet usage. BOY WAS THAT EMBARRASSING! It did help though. You might start snooping in her computer

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