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Anal Isn't Cheating

My wife and I had a huge argument over this, something so obvious it blows my mind.

We do anal, usually once or twice a week, almost ever since we first dated. Great! I love the variety. Weve been married three years. All should be well.

Then she comes to me and says we need to talk...she admits that at lunch she is doing anal with a guy at work. It's someone I know and he's been to the condo a few times. They are doing it once or twice a week for a few months now!

I go ballistic and she gets angry. Finally she says "I'm not really even cheating." I think and say WTF to that. She argued "he's not fucking my pussy. That's only for you." By the end of the argument I find out that he fingers her, she sucks on him, they use lube, but that he only finishes in her ass, but he does finish in her each time. He has never fucked her pussy. She even says "well if you're going to call me a cheater, I might as well let him fuck my pussy."

We've fucked since then and even did anal once since, and she has also done anal with the other guy, but she's still angry and hurt that I think she cheated. I dont know how she gets this F ing idea anal isn't cheating, but that's what I'm living with.

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by Anonymous on Oct 18, 2020 at 8:45 PM

You don't need to live with it, fuck her off and find someone who keeps all of her body, soul and love just for you.

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by Anonymous on Oct 18, 2020 at 8:46 PM

You go and find a hot gal and only fuck her in the ass! Hear what your wife says, if you are cheating or not?

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by Anonymous on Oct 19, 2020 at 12:35 AM

She's a dirty cheating slut and as the last person said, you go and start fucking some girl up the arse and see what your flippant wife has to say about it.

by Anonymous on Oct 19, 2020 at 9:58 AM

She's cheating. She's sucking his dick, letting him fuck her ass and probably pulling out and cumming in her mouth. She's lying when she says he only comes in her ass. The lube at work is actually pussy juice on his dick. She told you he only fucked her ass thinking it was the lesser of three evils. Cut bait and find someone new and loyal.

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by Anonymous on Oct 19, 2020 at 2:19 PM

Being naked in front of another man is cheating let alone allowing him to fu*k her in the as* or Pus*y.
She is a cheat how ever you look at it.

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by Anonymous on Oct 19, 2020 at 7:52 PM

Cheating is not defined by what someone does. What someone do, kiss, anal, oral, etc does not define what is cheating and what is not.

The victim, and victim only, defines cheating!

I'm a cheater, and even I know that! Cheating is defined by breaking someones trust, period.

Either you respect your spouses wishes, or you don't respect them. This is something when your situation gets interesting. She came and told you and was being honest about it.

I'm just saying that she may love you, and the sex with the third man may only be for fun. She is willing to have sex with you, and she wants you to stay with her, and most importantly, she was honest about it.

Usually when men cheat, they want to keep their family together. When women cheat, they want to get a new man and leave the old man. And women do not tell about it, they just pack their bags when the time is right.

This is what you need to find out from her. What she wants to do? Do not argue about it, because then she just shuts and won't be honest with you. Honesty is a thing, what you can play with. She needs to show her cards for you, so you can do something about it.

If she does it just for fun, and not to ridicule you, or trying to find a new man to leave you, or to end sex between you two, then what is the harm? I'm not trying to encourage you to let her do it if you want to put stop to it, but I'm only asking you to think this purely objectively, because if you continue argue about it and once she shuts, you've lost her.

Sex is just sex. She doesn't break when doing it, and think about it, after a long day at work, she is more relaxed, more revived and she is more open to new things. Would open relationship work for you two?

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by Anonymous on Oct 21, 2020 at 10:37 AM

Its cheating, but as the others have said, ask her if she is ok with you fucking some other woman in the ass.

Usually when someone gets put in the same position as you they wake up and realize what they are doing.

Such a short time married I would wonder. Maybe she wants an open marriage, if so, go for it.

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by Anonymous on Oct 21, 2020 at 4:00 PM

I asked. She said it's up to me but she'd be jealous. She even tried to tell me it's different because if I have sex or get a bj I have to recover while she doesn't really need to do anything. First off I can go again pretty quickly so it's not like I'm older (no offense to anyone here). Second, since she doesn't need to do anything is she just some sort of cum bucket for the other guy?

I agree with the people who thinks she cheated. If she was interested in an open marriage or swinging we could've talked about that. In fact, I've mentioned that before and she was indifferent. She literally gave up herself, at least her back end, to someone without telling me until later. I think that's cheating and lying and what else will she wait to tell me if I stay married to her???

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by Anonymous on Oct 22, 2020 at 1:15 AM

A lot's been covered here and some very well thought out replies, but in the end, the opportunity for recreational sex where you'd both enjoy it was spurned and she chose to give her ass and probably more to this other guy. The fact that it's someone you know, who's been to your place, is even worse.
Seriously mate, you need to bin that girl and get on with your life.

by Anonymous on Oct 23, 2020 at 4:51 PM

I replied a couple of spots above. My opinion from what she said, she wants her own set of rules and doesn't want you to have the same outside your marriage opportunities.

I have cheated in the past. If my Mrs did the same and told me she did (or didnt tell me and I found out) I feel like I wouldn't have any right to get upset because i did the same thing.

People can make up whatever excuses they want to justify their actions, but any kind of intimacy, bj, anal, hj, to full fucking, any sex where someone else's genitalia is involved is cheating, plain and simple.

I usually think people should try to work out their problems, but I would probably tell her, either you both get to have outside your marriage relationships or both of you dont.

That being said, dont be surprised if she agrees and sneaks around behind your back, be prepared for it. And also, if dont be shocked if she gets involved with additional men. We all know it's easier for a woman to find someone willing to hook up than it is for us guys. Once she's cheated outside your marriage what's one more...

Good luck.

by Anonymous on Oct 26, 2020 at 3:48 PM

So here's what I did...

On Friday I made sure to get home before she did. When she got home, I immediately grabbed her and said I was horny. She freely admitted she had just had anal with her friend and should probably take a shower first. I said I wanted to do her in the ass right after he did. She was surprised but got turned on and we began making out and I stripped off her clothes. I kept my pants around my ankles.

Her ass was sort of slick and sort of sticky at the same time. I put a little lube on me and slid in pretty easily. I got in as deep as I could and started pounding her really fast. She screamed out a few times then begged that I go easier on her. I did for a little bit then told her I felt it coming. I started pounding her harder again and she gave in but at the same time you could tell she wasn't really controlling herself well, she was trying to position herself so it wouldn't hurt and I just kept jamming it in.

I let out a loud groan just as I started to shoot a load in her. She arched her back and fingered herself to an orgasm as I went. I reached down to the bedside table (as planned) and pulled out an envelope with a letter stating I wanted a divorce that I had worked on with the lawyer (there's a lot more to it than that, but it's a legal document all signed and notarized, but no official "divorce papers").

As I was still pulsing in her I rocked her hips back against me and threw the papers on the bed in front of her. "Here you stupid B**ch, I got a present for you." I withdrew quickly on purpose which took her breath away and she slumped against the bed. I hurried out to my car already loaded with what i needed and all the financials. She never made it out in time to catch me, if she even tried.

She's been blowing up my phone all weekend and today trying to talk to me. Fuck her. The end.

by Anonymous on Nov 4, 2020 at 1:10 PM

It's never good when people split up, but you certainly were justified in your actions, I don't blame you. I'd probably done the same thing.

I had a situation like yours, didn't speak to her,for 6 months. Finally her Grandma came to where I worked and begged me to give her a chance.

I foolishly did and she ended up screwing me over again.

by Anonymous on Nov 28, 2020 at 11:03 PM

Soooo, I know I'm late to this party and I'm a guilty one so I'm the last one to be talking but I feel like I can explain some so here's my two cents.

Growing up my two BFF's liked to see how far they could get without losing their V cards. One would do oral and the other did a lot of anal. She bragged about how great it was. I wasn't into anal or oral so my V card was lost pretty early. Not sure why, but I got cheated on a lot, and had a lot of boyfriends stolen by 'friends' and my sister.

When I did get married I thought everything was going to be perfect, but it turned out marriage changed him and we were often upset with each other. I worked at an amusement park. I've been working there summers since I was 15 and I've been there all year since I graduated H.S. the year before. There is a LOT of hanky panky that happens at the park. Hanky panky between employees at the same ride, booth or station is prohibited but actually the most common. Messing around with your boss was a common way to get ahead then. So at the same time my husband and I were having issues an area manager at work really started to hit on me. This clueless know-it-all guy had a favorite spot to mess around at. That spot was above and near my station's break area so we got a free show anytime he used it.

I was conflicted. I didn't want to cheat on my husband but I'd been wanting to be taken there, mostly to put on a show for my coworker friends, for years. Before I got engaged and married I had a slutty reputation. Getting engaged and then married not only ruined my slutty reputation but coworkers were much less fun to be around. I wanted my fun coworkers back.

So I compromised in my mind and did everything but vaginal sex. I did NOT like anal but I kept my pain to myself cause I knew I had an audience I was trying to impress. It worked and I came home feeling invigorated and happy I managed all that without cheating on my husband. I made sure my husband went to sleep happy to be married to me.

I KNOW technically I cheated but I didn't FEEL like I was cheating so I started doing more of that. I believe the OP's wife was the same way. I get her. I wish you got her too.

by Anonymous on Dec 10, 2020 at 9:22 AM

It all goes back to would you ne ok if your husband did the same thing and fucked whoever he wanted in the ass.

If the answer is no, then you are cheating. If yes, then you have an open marriage.

by Anonymous on Jul 4, 2023 at 9:29 PM

She's just gaslighting you with the idea that it's not cheating.

by Anonymous on Sep 18, 2024 at 8:25 AM

Your wife feels anal does not count so you should find a hot woman to have anal sex with.
If your wife is having casual anal sex on her lunch break at work and getting anal creampies for lunch, chances are she is having casual anal sex with many other guys as well and probably getting double anal gangbanged as well. Sounds like your wife is an anal slut and you can't expect her to change. At least she has confessed to you. She was probably testing the water because she wants you to fuck her pussy while her friend from work fucks her asshole. Maybe she is the office anal slut? I wonder how many men from her work she has had anal sex with? Just make sure you get some videos of her having anal sex with other men so you have evidence if it ends up in divorce court. For now enjoy your anal slut wife and get lots of videos and pictures of your wife being assfucked by other men.

by Anonymous on Sep 22, 2024 at 2:29 AM

At least she admits it. If she thinks anal isn't cheating then you can also have casual anal sex with other women. You should surprise her and bring her other guys or friends to have casual anal sex with them as well. Maybe let her have double anal sex and get two loads of cum in her ass at the same time. then you can use it as lube and fuck all the cum out of her loose ass until she gets more anal creampies at work. Maybe she can even have anal quickies in the bathroom at work to get more cum in her ass. Clearly, she is an anal slut and feels casual anal sex doesn't count so she is going to do it either way so she might as well just start doing double anal because if the guy has been to your place before, that's what she is hinting at. She wants you to double penetrate her with him. You can know that only you can fuck her pussy and her ass, but her friends only get asshole. Pretty good deal. Whenever she wants double anal, you have to let her. Enjoy your anal slut wife

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