Hi 2young! What you are talking about is very common, unfortunately. There is such a long history of women being told to behave one way and men to behave another.
If you want things to change, you need to be the one to change things. There is a lot you can do to get control of the situation, but it takes a commitment to change. How would you feel about trying to change?
The question I have for you 2young, is whether this is actually a one night stand. Was this someone you met and bedded on the same day? If that was the case, here's a suggestion, don't act like a whore and you don't get treated like one. If a guy comes on strong on first contact and tries to talk you into sucking his cock or dropping your panties right away, he's thinking with the little head and viewing you as a breathing, self cleaning masturbation toy with three holes and a pair of tits. It's not pretty, but there it is. And one of the worst things you can do is inflate it into some emotional act of "love making". Unless he's known you for a while, he's only emotional about getting his dick wet with your bodily fluids.
If, on the other hand, this is someone you've known, talked with, dated, become intimate with over the long haul, you've a right to be disappointed. If that is the case though, you needed to negotiate your conditions with clear eyes. If you simply fell into his arms and let him lead you to bed without getting any sort of commitment in advance on the other hand, you didn't put out the information you both needed to decide what your actual goal was.
In short, you went in with one set of expectations and he went in with another. You were thinking in terms of taking your relationship [no matter how short], to a physical level and becoming emotionally intimate. He was simply using your pussy for stress relief with no thought of what came next. In fact, the attitude had and language he used implies he thought nothing came next.
Not all men are shit, just most of them
