Straight Male / 37
Slightly Worried
I don't want my wife to know, but I'm starting to worry about a thing that's been happening over the last year or so.
We usually transition from her giving me oral to pleasing her - her method of choice these days is to vibe her clit while I stimulate her labia or finger her until she orgasms, usually while she's lying down. The other night she got up on her knees and I fingered her, found her g-spot, and she bellowed like a cow when she came and immediately went in to suck me desperately. That was a good one.
If I sit up beside her while she vibes she will stroke my cock the whole time. I'm still in the game hardness-wise, but I'm not as precise on her. So usually I'll move so that she can't reach me but I can focus on her, and she goes off like a rocket. She deserves the focus being wholly on her and I could care less about my dick honestly. She deserves a good time, so I'm in there playing her pussy like a SEGA Genesis controller - we do call it "playing SEGA," just for the record. Once that's over, we usually "bring it back to life" and move to penetration - either prone with a pillow or cowgirl at the edge of the bed, my feet on the floor for support.
This is where the problem starts. If I get hot at all, sweaty at all, or have any kind of muscle cramps while we are engaged in penetrative sex, I'm pushing rope. Or I'm feeling nothing whatsoever. I'm totally out of the game and usually that's the end of our fun time as she gets frustrated with me for "wearing myself out" and I'm usually ready at that point to say screw it and go make dinner or something. If I'm not being pleased anymore, we can always try again tomorrow. In my mind at least she's had an orgasm by that point with vibe and fingers.
I do love the image of my bouncing her around on my dick, but the labor involved on my end might be part of what's messing me up. With prone it's all my hips, with cowgirl I like to grab her ass and the motion is kind of like rowing a boat really fast. I'm not in bad shape at all and I am active (walk a mile every day at work after lunch, 5 miles 3x week on the bike, light weight training). Annual check up came back fine this year.
So what's going on? Does this happen to anyone else?
We usually transition from her giving me oral to pleasing her - her method of choice these days is to vibe her clit while I stimulate her labia or finger her until she orgasms, usually while she's lying down. The other night she got up on her knees and I fingered her, found her g-spot, and she bellowed like a cow when she came and immediately went in to suck me desperately. That was a good one.
If I sit up beside her while she vibes she will stroke my cock the whole time. I'm still in the game hardness-wise, but I'm not as precise on her. So usually I'll move so that she can't reach me but I can focus on her, and she goes off like a rocket. She deserves the focus being wholly on her and I could care less about my dick honestly. She deserves a good time, so I'm in there playing her pussy like a SEGA Genesis controller - we do call it "playing SEGA," just for the record. Once that's over, we usually "bring it back to life" and move to penetration - either prone with a pillow or cowgirl at the edge of the bed, my feet on the floor for support.
This is where the problem starts. If I get hot at all, sweaty at all, or have any kind of muscle cramps while we are engaged in penetrative sex, I'm pushing rope. Or I'm feeling nothing whatsoever. I'm totally out of the game and usually that's the end of our fun time as she gets frustrated with me for "wearing myself out" and I'm usually ready at that point to say screw it and go make dinner or something. If I'm not being pleased anymore, we can always try again tomorrow. In my mind at least she's had an orgasm by that point with vibe and fingers.
I do love the image of my bouncing her around on my dick, but the labor involved on my end might be part of what's messing me up. With prone it's all my hips, with cowgirl I like to grab her ass and the motion is kind of like rowing a boat really fast. I'm not in bad shape at all and I am active (walk a mile every day at work after lunch, 5 miles 3x week on the bike, light weight training). Annual check up came back fine this year.
So what's going on? Does this happen to anyone else?
