What's Wrong Having Friends With Benefits?

Both my ex boyfriend and parents have problems with my just having friends with benefits. All I am doing is having fun.

My ex who totally agreed to being in a open relationship got all upset when I said I was gonna see this guy. Meanwhile, I already said okay for him to fuck two other girls in the past and I didn't have a problem with it. All of a sudden it's a problem when I want to see a guy. We fought on it for almost a week when I just said screw you, I'm leaving goodbye. Nothing about the sex being better I just want to try different things. My ex wasn't bad or anything just wasn't open to the idea of me fucking other guys even though he agreed to it.

As for my parents, they complain that I am always out late. Bringing home different boys. My parents would say. "You should save yourself for someone you love." Like I'm 20 and I'm out here having fun. Once I feel like I want to start dating for real, I will. But until then I'm going to keep doing what I'm doing.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Feb 15, 2021 at 11:56 AM

Having been 20 years old once and wanting to just have good sex, is fine and normal. No problem, be safe, watch out for STD's. They do exist beyond the poster in your doctors office. Now that I am 50 I can tell you sex as good as it is when your single and plutonic, is even better when done with someone you love. This is why your parents are encouraging you to slow down. They have been there and they know the difference.
As far as your ex. He is just jealous for one , two, or both reasons.
1. he isn't getting any.
2. he still has feelings for you.
Don't worry about him. He will get over it and move eventually. Just be careful. working in the medical industry you wont believe how many 20 something year old girls come into the office and have to check off "yes" to herpes. It's scary!

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by Anonymous on Feb 15, 2021 at 11:57 PM

Good on you, go out there and have fun as long as you're safe and in control.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Feb 16, 2021 at 9:20 AM

Parents just want you to find someone to love and to not get pregnant or get the herps or other shit thats out there. Bfs get jealous all the time, sometimes it shows they care, sometimes they are just being childish. If you arent exclusively dating and hes free to do the same thing well he cant bitch about it. If he wants you to be exclusive then he should be too. I was in the same situation but she did it behind my back. It didnt end well. When you find someone you love you will want to stop dating around, its just a natural progression. Sex with someone you love is definitely better.

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