He's not to smart. It's usually the guy who is complaining about not getting it. I'm one of those guys! That's why I'm here reading this stuff! Let me know if your interested in a 49 YO man. RL.
Busy lifestyles always take their toll.
Keep some special slot for yourselves. No need to seek pleasure outside.
I get that people use porn as a replacement if you arent getting it from the spouse, but if they are wanting it and you aren't providing because of porn thats just wrong. Tell him you are going to get it from someone else if he doesnt step up or start getting off to your own porn stash, turn him down and see how he likes it. Trust me, a lot of guys would be willing to help you out with your needs that you aren't getting filled.
Sadly I can so relate. I feel like I wrote this. However he tells me I don't seem interested (so wrong!) & Keeps himself busy working til all hours at nights.
I feel so unwanted, unlovable, rejection hurts deeply more than words can express...
I am depressed but if I bring it up I am made to feel guilty.
Even surprising him naked while happy & excited - NOTHING.
My past is completely opposite & this is beyond confusing & depressing.
I love & adore my husband more than anything... I just don't understand. He never used to turn anything down & naked couldn't resist.
I have given up. Even on the dream of having a family.... for that he has to WANT ME, DESIRE ME & PUT SOME EFFORT IN LIKE I HAVE TRIED.
I have been diagnosed with depression, & anxiety - I CAN'T EVEN FULLY EXPLAIN WHY TO ANYONE
Commenter just above, I can totally relate. I thought in marriage you were to fully give yourself to your spouse and fulfill their needs, including sexual ones. They were to provide so you never had to look outside your marriage. Welp that didnt last long. I love my wife but she could care less about my needs so I started finding those who would outside of my marriage. I don't do it much anymore with covid around, but I'm sure if I had gotten caught she would have totally denied any fault of her own. And she wonders why I won't tell her I love her. It's my little continuing sign that she isn't fulfilling her part of the marriage deal. The truly annoying thing is, several of the ones I cheated with would have totally sexed my brains out every day if I had left for them.
