Smiling at you...you feel so sexy and naughty into your desires. A woman who needs to explored taking out your sub side....exploring and training you into the luscious flesh pleasures. ..pain and pleasure as a flower taking your petals one by one
Find someone that you are comfortably sexually first, THEN move on to other exploratory events. When you say BDSM, too many guys are going to read into it what THEY want. Know that you are safe with someone first and then get your freak on.
Be very careful. Most people, by far, who are into BDSM are leatherclad players who are perfectly safe, but every once in a while you might meet someone who is the genuine article and won't stop, and they are only satisfied by inflicting real pain. If you want to play in that world, forget about sissy safe words and rosy ass slaps. You're going to get seriously used. Mutual trust and knowledge about your partner are key. Then you can safely explore the boundaries together.
Any potential "master" crazy enough to want to really hurt you, should be discernable after some initial contact... I suggest an actual list of unacceptable practices, and at least a friend no further away than a phone-call, the timing of which would be agreed up-front, to avoid any delays in the even of such need...
