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Straight Female / 29
A Sharp Right Turn And My Life Went Another Way
Today is my 29th birthday. I come from the proverbial AngloSaxon Protestant home. I went to a good high school, to a good university, I have an undergraduate degree in Finance and a Graduate degree in business. I did not meet my dream boat in college.
I accepted a job out of college with an international division of a Fortune 500 company in the treasury department dealing with cross border transactions. I rented a nice apartment in a high rise with an easy commute to work, located in an area of restaurants and bars. My social life developed around college friends, new friends I met in my building, and new friends I met socially at bars on weekends. I was living the life.
My coworker who is a few years older, didn't approve of my social life. He showed up at my apartment unannounced. An uncomfortable conversation, a warning, an argument. He intended to change my social behavior, his intent to take up residence in my apartment. He did not leave, my days of freedom were over, he controlled me physically and emotionally.
Trapped in a relationship I did not ask for, the passive partner to this man, I set about establishing a home. The children came one, two, three. With three the financial and emotional cost of working became upside down and with a new house to set up I let go of my job, becoming 100% dependent on this man. I'm 29 today, I had dreams of traveling, of meeting my dream boat along the way, of having a career. As it is I'm my mother and grandmother, child bearing, home making, wondering what happened to me.
I accepted a job out of college with an international division of a Fortune 500 company in the treasury department dealing with cross border transactions. I rented a nice apartment in a high rise with an easy commute to work, located in an area of restaurants and bars. My social life developed around college friends, new friends I met in my building, and new friends I met socially at bars on weekends. I was living the life.
My coworker who is a few years older, didn't approve of my social life. He showed up at my apartment unannounced. An uncomfortable conversation, a warning, an argument. He intended to change my social behavior, his intent to take up residence in my apartment. He did not leave, my days of freedom were over, he controlled me physically and emotionally.
Trapped in a relationship I did not ask for, the passive partner to this man, I set about establishing a home. The children came one, two, three. With three the financial and emotional cost of working became upside down and with a new house to set up I let go of my job, becoming 100% dependent on this man. I'm 29 today, I had dreams of traveling, of meeting my dream boat along the way, of having a career. As it is I'm my mother and grandmother, child bearing, home making, wondering what happened to me.
