Please Stop Reabusing Because Of Your Vicarious Pleasure Need

30 years ago I was 17, honor role student in my hometown of 14 thousand. I was cornered by a guy and dragged into this abandoned building and abused. He left me tied and I never saw or heard from him again. I got free, got my clothes on and managed to get home to change. I never told anyone, not until now. I've decided to speak out against vicarious reabusers.

I joined the police force, earned an associates degree and work primarily with parole management. I also participate with abused women. Most of which are not truly abused, they are in over their head. No one did anything to them, they just didn't like it or the relationship ended. But some are abuse survivors and I focus on helping them. Finding the abuser is a fools errand, it doesn't help at all. Not for the woman or girl. Leave well enough alone, help them cope and move on. I know this sounds bad for many, but it doesn't help. If these abusers are caught, deal with them but keep the girl out of it.

Your body recovers very quickly, it's gone before you know it. The experience goes away too. It's the need for others to relive it vicariously that doesn't let it die. So back off, you are not helping. Girls, women, are resilient. My goal is simple, get on with your life, make a family, get a degree, paint a painting. Reliving an abuse doesn't help. Sorry. It doesn't. As to the regret and revenge seekers, they deserve their misery, as to the rest of us we want to get up and enjoy our day. It happened. That's all.