Husband Doesn't Get It

My husband won't wank just incase I decide I'm in the mood and when I am he wants to do everything and I just make him cum as quick as I can just because I can and kinda enjoy spoiling it and tend to make myself cum when I'm cleaning up. It's clearly stressing him out and I'll get him excited throughout the day sometimes just to dash his hopes on the night which usually ends with him having wet dreams and I can't help but make him feel guilty about it.
Anyway I've been going out with friends drinking every other weekend the last few months and usually end up sucking and fucking but never let them cum in my pussy but last month I fucked up and took 3 loads and then cus I was out of money sucked the taxi driver off to cover my ride.
I went in really drunk and staggering around and went straight up got naked and started sucking my husbands dick which is about 7inches and normal thickness he woke up properly and when I went to kiss him he apologised for cumming a bit in my hair (taxi drivers) I slid his dick in and he knew summat was up, he got me on my back lifted my ankles above his head and after a couple of hard thrusts got up and walked out. When he came back he looked furious but told me to go down and we'd fuck in each room. I passed out waiting and woke up in the morning to him already having gone to work.
He's never had any issues before and I don't get why he would now. Should I get him off a little more? I want him to shut up about this and go back to being normal. Any advice would help