Need Something More

Been married for 30+ years. Wife stopped having sex around year 7. after kids were born. She’d gained weight, had scarring that made it painful. So she basically closed up shop. Relationship is great otherwise. She’s a good wife and mother. Our sex life was never particularly eventful anyway. She’s very conservative and sexually never wanted much beyond missionary. Ever since I mastubate regularly and watch porn in secret but am always fantasizing about how I might explore new “live” options including bi-curious or gay. Any suggestions on how to safely and discreetly do more than just jerk off? I want a sex life back before I get too old to do it.