Alright I hvae this friend who ive known for I dont know ten years now, but she has moved away from the city I live in. We usually talk to eachother on the phone, but lately ive been really tired and been having problems with my boyfriend so Im not really in the mood to talk to her. It started when I began ignoring her calls because I really truthfully was not in the mood to talk to her. She began leaving me voicemails and calling and calling and calling and more voice mails until it became full and I had to go through 20 voicemails to erase them off my phone. I always called her back sooner or later what the problem? alright now its gotten to the point where If I dont call her back in less then 10 minutes I have it timed now she calls me on a private number?! WTF?! seriously Ive told her why you calling me on a private number I know its you? She replies "so I can trick you into answering the phone!" umm how is she tricking me when I know its her? so ive given up on answering private numbers and erasing the voicemails without listening to them...but now she is calling my house phone. I have told her if I dont answer its because im busy, trying to get rest or just plainley tryng to have me time! but she still persists on doing this. Im afraid this is going to ruin our friendship. Its not like I dont talk to her everyday because If I dont she wont stop calling.

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by Anonymous on Oct 27, 2007 at 10:01 PM

Have you explained to her your boyfriend problems, etc.? I imagine she's calling you so much because you're her primary relationship, and now that there's so much geographic distance between you now, she is very lonely. Please keep that in mind before you end your friendship with her. After all, when you first became friends, you must have thought she was a great person.

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by Anonymous on Oct 28, 2007 at 12:32 AM

unfortunatly I have explained to her my situation and I do let her know that im tired and frustrated that I will give her a call when I feel better, but she dosnt give me the chance to. I dont want to be rude about it either, but its got to the point where I have to lie to her and tell her im going out of town so I can get rest but she still texts me and makes me feel miserable for not answering but I do have a life of my own. Today for example I was talking to my mother on the phone when I got a call from her It was important what my mother was telling me so I didnt answer I was going to call her soon, how I had agreed earlier today. no sooner had the call ended when she made another one I had 3 missed calls and 2 private calls and 3 voicemails I finally finished talking to my mother when guess what my house phone rang, I calmely explained to her that I was talking to my mother and for her not to be so desperate to which she replied "well your supposed to answer whenI call", I didnt reply anything and change the topic. everytime the phone rings our friends, my family, my boyfriend all jokingly always bet that its her.

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by Anonymous on Oct 28, 2007 at 7:35 AM

You say that you're not in the mood to talk to her, but usually aren't your friends meant to be the ones there to cheer you up and help you work your problems out?

It sounds like you feel that she wants more of you then you would ask of her but maybe that's as much you problem as it is hers.

try to remember what made you become friends in the first place and try answering the phone first time, try to make the conversation as engaging and fulfilling as possible.

she'll probably feel the need to call less if she doesn't feel like shes loosing your friendship.

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