Why Determine Sexual Orientation By Physical Sex Activity?

I am a str8 guy...very happily married, kids, fabulous life style...not loaded but we have more than enough.

It really irks me that sexual orientation is usually determined by the physical sex you engage in. I have many homosexual friends and fuck buddies. They are homosexuals not because they fuck and get fucked my men. That is a by product. The live a life with, and for men, in the real world. They are complete people who do a lot more than just fuck.
I on the other hand, live a str8 life...but I just love sex with men, as much as the great sex I have with my wife.
If I was to fall in love with a guy and want to spend the rest of my life with him in his scene...and leave women alone, then sure, I would identify as being gay.
But I don't. Are you gay if you masturbate? Watch porn...sometimes gay porn with your wife and make out?...have regular prostate massages?...kiss men you are having sex with?...
I don't hang out with gay men as a rule. I don't jack off looking at gay porn on my own, and I don't take notice of nude guys in the locker room, unless we are maybe going to fuck. Or Suck.
I don't cyber fuck on gay chat rooms. I just like to go to bed with hot nude men. I love to suck cocks and ball sacs and I love to rim and fuck a hot ass...as much as I like to be rimmed and fucked.
My wife and I have 4 gay couples we socialize with together, but sex in not involved.

So get over it. Male bodies are beautiful and can be the source of great sexual pleasure.

I am not gay because I have sex with men. Anymore than the gay guys I fuck with are Str8.

And I hate the bi thing, unless you live two lives, in isolation and walk the walk of both orientations.
Just saying...