Hi! I need some good advice. I'm about to leave for college and I wonder if now is a good time to tell my parents (mom and stepdad, dad & stepmom) that I am a lesbian. Actually, I think that my stepmom suspects because she walked in on me and my girlfriend "Stephanie" once. We had just stopped kissing right before the door opened, so I think we looked pretty guilty. But "Maggie", my stepmom has never said anything to me about it. So maybe she doesn't know. But "Stephanie" has been out to her parents nearly this whole year and she wants everyone to know that we are together.

I kinda want to tell my parents before I leave for college because then they'll have until Thanksgiving to get over it if they are upset. The only disadvantage I see is that my mom has been looking forward to "The Big Day" for so long. She can't wait to drive me to campus and help me move into the residence hall. I'm worried coming out will ruin it for her. "Stephanie" and I managed to get assigned to the same room so we are planning to move the beds together and all. We could do it after my parents leave, but that seems like lying. What should I do?