Yea, I guess you could call it a fetish. I'm a dude and I love to masturbate to porn and experience mutual masturbation with a buddy. I am lucky to know this dude who is also into porn and so we rent videos to watch together. We love putting on a show for each other. As I stroke myself, I glance back and forth between the action on the screen and him doing himself with various toys. And he does the same with me as I use various toys on myself. We have agreed to only masturbate and this very pleaseable, and some of the most powerful organisms I've ever had have occurred while doing this. We get together every week and do this.
"only" a little dull after all those years; that in itself is amazing. As for the title, who cares, if it works that's all that matters.
after years together,,,,you catchin him watching porn and jerking off was probably the spark that you needed. Being with the same person year after year, things get routine, regular, and boring. Think of it as a great opportunity to re-explore.
That's not what a fetish is.
People in the U.S. tend to use the word fetish to mean kinky sex. But actually fetish comes from an anthropology term in which witchdoctors made ritual objects that acted as substitutes for them and thus could heal, or kill, or make something else happen.
Hence, a fetish is when an object or activity that is not inherently sexual takes on sexual power of its own.
Example 1: Being turned by your girlfriend when she wears red high heels --not a fetish. Being turned on by red high heels in a store window --a fetish.
Example 2: Having an orgasm when your boyfriend tickles your clit with a feather --not a fetish. Having an orgasm when you see a picture of a peacock --a fetish.
Get the idea?
Watching porn and mutually masturbating is inherently sexual. If you were watching Bambi and removing each other's head lice and then had an orgasm, that would be a fetish.
Kinky sex is pretty commonplace, but true fetishes are relatively rare.
Wow. Dr. Phil couldn't have said it better
Well. That was our lesson for the day