Husband Shocked Me - The Rest

I posted the other day about catching my husband with another man, a few people wanted to know how things went. I'll try to keep it short...

We had several talks over the last couple of days. He is not gay, he still enjoys sex with me. He felt ignored and needed release that's why he turned to doing what he was doing. He enjoyed the prostate stimulation, that's why he did it. His friend talked him into dressing in the lingerie, he initially wasn't into it, but once he started, he admitted it turned him on a bit. Both he and his sex partner tested before getting together and he used condoms.

I told him he had a choice, we could either have an open marriage and I could look for sexual partners outside our marriage too, or he had to give up his extra activities. I am still in fairly good shape and get my share of attention and men coming on to me. I have never showed any interest, but if he continues his outside playing then I will too, including interest from women. I have never considered that, but what's good for the goose...

He said he wants us to try to work it out just the two of us. I prefer that anyway and agreed. I told him if he enjoyed that type of sex I would look into purchasing a strap on and trying it. I am open minded and just want him to enjoy our intimacy. I also told him I found his dress up interesting and if he was still into it, I would consider him wearing some things occasionally.

He told me he was sorry and had no intention of upsetting or hurting me, that went a long way with me. I know we are both under a lot of pressure with work and caring for our disabled son and we need to take time to understand that we are still a couple with needs.

Thanks to those who were understanding with their comments. I know this isn't the typical explicit confession but it was the only place I thought I could post something like this.