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Men Only
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Straight Male / 68
And So It Was In Those Times In Our Church And Community
This may be boring but also interesting. I married right out of high school to a girl I went to school with. We were both members of our church and our marriage was a common occurrence. Like our parents and our friends and the other members of the church. After high school you settled down and had children.
I worked for the business. It was a large agribusiness and I was trained for the warehouse, where many of the young new members started. That way you could learn the product and the movement. While I worked my wife was home having babies. We lived in a small house owned by the business along with many other starting families. As time went on we were trained in various other parts of the business depending on our interests and our abilities. I moved from the warehouse into the accounts department.
In our community everyone lived decently well. Families had three to five or six children. Wives were not expected to work, other than running the home. They made their social life with the other women. Generation by generation, and the men worked in the business. I rose to a position of high responsibility and with it came a bigger and nicer house. Our lives revolved around the business, our homes and our church.
An outsider would assume what they wanted from what they saw. But it wasn't all the way it appeared. The couples were matched early and married without question. There was an expectation that the boys sowed their wild oats and the girls remained virgins. As a young man we would go to the 'other' side of town to learn about being a man with a girl. Girls from outside our community were considered ordinary and for use, and the reputation of our community is that the men were considered bulls and the girls looked forward to us visiting. I have to say that those years between being sixteen and getting married were wild and free.
During the lifetime a man would have 'opportunities' to go blow off steam on the other side of town. Not so with the women, remaining true at home was expected and demanded. One slip and they were excommunicated. Some of the girls from the other side of town had been impure girls from our community. There were many cases of a man having a special girl outside the community, a second household. In my case I didn't go that route, although I did have a special girl for some time in my early years.
My wife grew up expecting the life she led, and she was rewarded with a good life because of my work and responsibility. She never asked about any other girl or going off to the other side of town. It was never her place to ask a question like that. She delivered herself on her wedding night and it was up to me to develop her or not. I found her attractive and those early years while she was bearing children there was more than enough activity to keep me from seeking opportunities on the other side of town. That came later, after a woman decided that it was best if she was left alone and not risk another pregnancy.
I worked for the business. It was a large agribusiness and I was trained for the warehouse, where many of the young new members started. That way you could learn the product and the movement. While I worked my wife was home having babies. We lived in a small house owned by the business along with many other starting families. As time went on we were trained in various other parts of the business depending on our interests and our abilities. I moved from the warehouse into the accounts department.
In our community everyone lived decently well. Families had three to five or six children. Wives were not expected to work, other than running the home. They made their social life with the other women. Generation by generation, and the men worked in the business. I rose to a position of high responsibility and with it came a bigger and nicer house. Our lives revolved around the business, our homes and our church.
An outsider would assume what they wanted from what they saw. But it wasn't all the way it appeared. The couples were matched early and married without question. There was an expectation that the boys sowed their wild oats and the girls remained virgins. As a young man we would go to the 'other' side of town to learn about being a man with a girl. Girls from outside our community were considered ordinary and for use, and the reputation of our community is that the men were considered bulls and the girls looked forward to us visiting. I have to say that those years between being sixteen and getting married were wild and free.
During the lifetime a man would have 'opportunities' to go blow off steam on the other side of town. Not so with the women, remaining true at home was expected and demanded. One slip and they were excommunicated. Some of the girls from the other side of town had been impure girls from our community. There were many cases of a man having a special girl outside the community, a second household. In my case I didn't go that route, although I did have a special girl for some time in my early years.
My wife grew up expecting the life she led, and she was rewarded with a good life because of my work and responsibility. She never asked about any other girl or going off to the other side of town. It was never her place to ask a question like that. She delivered herself on her wedding night and it was up to me to develop her or not. I found her attractive and those early years while she was bearing children there was more than enough activity to keep me from seeking opportunities on the other side of town. That came later, after a woman decided that it was best if she was left alone and not risk another pregnancy.
