We Live In An Unconventional Lifestyle

When I was in the seventh grade my father accepted a transfer to Hawaii. We lived in a nice house, about half a mile from the hotel where he was the manager. I went to school in a pretty mixed school, most were Hawaiian but a few of us were from the mainland. In my class was a girl, I'll call her Robbi. We got along real well and became very good friends.

She lived in a house with two moms and a dad. It was the first time any of met a real family with two wives. They were originally from Oregon and moved to Hawaii to get away when her father took his second wife. They were the closet thing to a normal home I had ever been around. After a while my parents accepted them and Robbi and were allowed to be best friends.

When it came time for us to go to college there was a big debate about going to college on the West Coast or going to a college in the Midwest that was more conservative. My parents were Midwest all the way and her parents were from the West Coast. In the end, my father flipped a coin and we went to the Midwest. We were roommates and we both were in the Education School.

From the beginning, when we first met she had convinced me that we should get married together. In college it became a real thing, how to find a boy who would marry the two of us. We met this guy, by accident really, he lived across from us in the apartment and we told him of what we wanted to do. One day he said why not, and we flipped for which one of would be married conventionally and which one of us would be married in spirit. I got the conventional marriage side of he coin.

At first we lived in the Midwest while he went to graduate school, but once he graduated we moved back to Hawaii to be close to our parents. We both moved with babies in our bellies.

We have a community now of multiple wife families. Some are professionals like us and some are hard working blue collar workers. Some are Hawaiian and some are from the mainland. Some have wives that are ten years apart and others have wives that are the same age. Not all of the offspring became multiple wife families, but several of us did. We don't have a religious preference, to each his own on that front. We don't have rules or anything formal. We have something in common.

One short anecdote. When we were still in the baby business we were flying back from Honolulu to the island and we were waiting at the airport. It was obvious to the family sitting there on vacation that we were more than just sisters. The lady, in her forties, came over and asked us if we were lesbians. We said no, we are polygamous. She apologized all over the place, laughed and said that we were so cute the way we handled our five kids. She visited with us and asked a lot of questions. She told us that if she had someone as close as Robbi and I she would consider having another wife in her house.