Blowjobs Vs Sex

So my bf and I have been together for eight months now but we haven't had sex yet. I mean, we're very intimate, he loves receiving oral so that's what we do exclusively but I'm wondering if I should be pushing for PIV sex?

It started because I'm a bigger girl, not huge but I think I'm a bbw. And I have a hard time getting naked around anybody. He's really fit and that's one of the things i find irresistible about him. I want to be like him one day. I'm trying to learn from him but right now I'm just not able to relax enough to enjoy being naked with a partner. He's been great at respecting this. I was honest with him about it and he could tell that I was very self conscious so he suggested that I keep my clothes on and I could just go down on him. I'm really thankful that he's okay with my taking it slow and not being pushy but honestly I thought that he would just have done it by now and I would have given in and let him have sex with me. But instead we're eight months in and we're still at the blowjob stage.

I love giving him head and he seems perfectly content. It is just that I thought most guys would want sex by now and I'm wondering if he doesn't see me like that? He said a while back that he loves doing blowjobs with me (or he calls it face fucking?) much more than the sex he used to have. He said that he didn't know there are girls like me and that he's never going back. I just thought it was bedroom talk not how he actually felt. We both like the fact that I don't need to worry about birth control or what time of the month it is. I still tell him when my period starts (just in case) but he just smiles.

I actually love doing oral, it makes me feel extra submissive. Also, I had no idea before about all the positions that are possible for oral and I get excited when he starts taking his belt off or when he tells me to kneel. He's the first guy I've swallowed for and now i look forward to it everytime. I assume I would learn how to enjoy sex eventually too but right now I have a hard time imagining being able to satisfy him the same way and that would just make it even harder for me to enjoy it.

Should I bring this up to him? I feel selfish for making him so something different than what he likes and I still feel self conscious about having sex so maybe I should just let it happen. I feel like I'm falling in love with him and I don't want to mess it up. He is kind to me and treats me great outside of the bedroom. I really don't mind sticking to blowjobs but I just thought he'd push for more by now. What do you think? Has anyone been in my situation? How long were you in the blowjob stage?

Comments

Anonymous

by Anonymous on Jun 3, 2023 at 10:53 AM

If he is happy and you are happy, nothing else matters at this point.

If YOU want more, then it is for YOU to communicate that him and vice versa.

Sex, blowjobs and everything else are meant to feel good. If this all feels good and right, then there isn’t anything to fix.

(3)  (0)
Anonymous

by Anonymous on Jun 3, 2023 at 11:45 AM

I echo the above comment in that if it feels the right place to be right now then don’t worry. It will however be up to you to push for penetration when you feel ready because as one boyfriend once told me “ a bj is like an intelligent vagina” so your boyfriend is already getting all he needs.
Quick question though, is the oral all one way or does he also go down on you? If he’s not offering to reciprocate then it really is just one way relief.!
However I do h

(2)  (1)
Anonymous

by Anonymous on Jun 3, 2023 at 1:57 PM

Please tell me you have a sister ?

(5)  (0)
Anonymous

by Anonymous on Jun 3, 2023 at 7:28 PM

Choose the date and place. Make him horny for you. Tease him till he can't help but fuck you. But be mentally prepared for it not working. You won't get mad or worried. Allow the conversation to go where it needs to. Might be the fuck after all

(0)  (0)
Anonymous

by Anonymous on Jun 4, 2023 at 7:03 AM

"Oh, he's such a great guy! He lets me suck him off any time he wants and does absolutely nothing to give me sexual satisfaction in return. How wonderful of him! He must be in love with me!"

Are you effin' kidding me? This guy is living the dream!

(4)  (1)
Seagull57

by Seagull57 on Jun 4, 2023 at 9:56 AM

If, after 8 months there is no reciprocation, you need to have a talk! Yes, you should be fucking by now. Even if your sex life leans heavily on oral, he should be satisfying you! Get on birth control and get naked! Leave the lights off at first, if it make you more comfortable. Your confidence will grow as the shared sex expands. You deserve to be eaten and fucked! Being a bit chubby does not excuse him. He should prove his love with his tongue and his cock!

(0)  (0)
Anonymous

by Anonymous on Jun 13, 2023 at 7:49 AM

You deserve to cum as much as he does.get naked and play with your pussy while sucking his dick and make him fuck you and try to get him to eat you. If he won't do this dump him.

(0)  (0)
TallMoney

by TallMoney on Jun 18, 2023 at 6:58 PM

Relationships are about a lot more than just sex. It's important not to measure your relationship in terms of who gets what in the bedroom but it sounds like you already know that and are doing what's best for both of you.
I have been in a similar situation before, I had to be patient and realize that it will happen when it feels right. The last thing you want to do is force something that you or him aren't comfortable with yet.

(0)  (0)

Comment this

Can't read the image? Click here to refresh